Friend problems

[ejjie]

deleted my posts as you wouldn't

 

[LisaJ1986]

I don't really think there's a lot you can do til she's happy. But don't feel guilty about getting on with your life!
I've said in previous post about my friend the deserted me when i got pregnant. She'd text me occasionally til she got the text saying Angel was here. Not heard from her since. Everything has been a competition with her though. GCSE's, i got my bloke, moved in then had a kid. Before i got pregnant she said she was getting engaged on her 21st, but then i announced i was pregnant she was miffed coz she 'couldn't afford both'.
I get on with it coz thats all i can do. I can't wait til she gets there 1st.
Make yourself happy.

 

[zebrastripes]

If I were you I would just be as sweet as I could. Don't rub it in when you finally do get pregnant (not that you would, but it is so easy for something to be construed as "rubbing it in" especially if your friend is feeling a bit precious.) However make it clear that your not ...hiding away from her either...if you know what I mean.

If you are really nice and sensitive to her feelings, hopefully she will come around. if not, nobody can say you didn't try, therefore the blame lies upon her side and the ball is, in effect, in her court

 

[ejjie]

Thanks girls,

I think you're both right and there's nothing I can do. I'm not going to speak to her about TTC again unless she specifically asks and will make sure I play it down a bit if/when I catch.

I hope she meets somebody by then and the whole thing will go away. I'd be gutted if I lost her out of my life because we go down different paths but I think with her that won't happen, she'll probably just take a bit of time to come round to it

FINGERS CROSSED!

 

[mrs_metal]

I've been in a similar situation, I lost my best friend of 20 years because I met a guy and fell in love, she'd always had more boyfriends then me but she'd never gotten serious with any of them. She got so twisted up with jealosy that I was happy and she wasn't that she refused to speak to me then sent an extremely nasty email We were both 31 as well at the time.

No idea really what I did to deserve that but 6 years later I'm still glad I've got my hubby in my life and not her. If we do manage to have a baby I know she's gonna go insane (she was always the one that really wanted kids) but that's her problem not mine (we know some of the same people so she'll find out).

Your friend sounds like a better person than my ex-friend and it may just take her some time to get used the idea. All I can advise is when you get pregnant tell her after the 12 weeks, make it clear you want her to be a part of yours and your babys life and then give her some space to let her come to terms with it, it must be very hard for her when you've got something she wants so badly but can't have yet.

If she's truly your friend she'll eventually be happy for you, it might take her a long time though, good luck

 

[ejjie]

Thanks Mrs Metal.

It seems like quite a common thing and I can totally understand it but it's sooooo hard when you want everybody to be happy for you.

She will come round I know she will, she's just going through a really low patch and needs some good things to happen for her

I didn't mention before, there's a load of us going to Dubai for new year (including her, DH & other mates). My best friend lives over there. Anyway this girl is getting worked up that I'm going to 'ruin' this holiday by being PG...

She doesn't realise that I will be over the moon if I'm PG for the trip, it won't affect anybody else's hols at all. I would love to spend some time with my best friend before having a baby and she'd love to see me PG. People are SO different

Anyway, I'm boring myself now!!!!

Thanks for the help