ARRGH! Sorry, another work rant.

[daftscotslass]

WHY does everyone I know, especially people at my work, feel the need to say "Oh it will be so hard, there will be so many tears, you won't be able to leave her, I don't know how you can do it, you should go part time" etc etc etc

This is the main reason I'm dreading going back next week. It's hard enough leaving her but do people HONESTLY think they're helping by saying this to me and rubbing it in over and over again? I am going to lock myself in the classroom next week and refuse to come out.

/end rant

 

[Meggiewoo]

I also go back on monday night - I'm on a rota and am working monday night and thursday night next week so not as bad as you hun

You will be absolutely fine

Kim x x x x

 

[debecca]

WHY does everyone I know, especially people at my work, feel the need to say "Oh it will be so hard, there will be so many tears, you won't be able to leave her, I don't know how you can do it, you should go part time" etc etc etc

This is the main reason I'm dreading going back next week. It's hard enough leaving her but do people HONESTLY think they're helping by saying this to me and rubbing it in over and over again? I am going to lock myself in the classroom next week and refuse to come out.

/end rant

I am going to repeat the advice I gave you in your previous rant about an entirely different group of people.

Tell them to shove it up their ar5e.

Seriously though, what is it about the teaching profession that makes it so chock full of women who feel the need to poke their nose into someone else's business? Er... like me, obviously, hence me replying to this post.

Some people THRIVE from going back to work, some people HATE it but have to go back. What they're saying isn't going to make you feel any better whichever category you fit into. Silly moos.

Becky will be fine.

I'm putting Flod into nursery one day a week from January just for some me time and I've had some horrendous reactions already

 

[daftscotslass]

Cheers lovies. I like work but I hate having to go back full time. Everyone at my work is either single or married with a very wealthy partner. Sad but true. They are such lovely people but just can't see beyond how they did it in the past or are doing it now. There are only two other people with young kids and they both job share but both their hubbies earn a fortune.

My main consolation is that the person whose class I'm getting (who is ages with me and more of a friend than a colleague) has just gone off on maternity leave and is in exactly the same boat as me with regards to having a big mortgage and a young baby. Only she's more outspoken than me and if anyone said that to her it's likely she'd tell them to get bent

 

[LisaJ1986]

I'm supposed to be going back soon (if work sort it out!!!) and yeah it'll be hard, but it may do you some good. I hate the thought of leaving Angel, but we need some time apart. She hangs off my neck or boob all day every day!

It's like when you're pregnant and everyone insists on telling you how awful labour is!!! I think after the first couple of times i told them i don't want to hear it as it is inevitable!!!

Best thing was it went so much better than the girl in question made out and she was pissed for ages!

You will cope fine is what i mean! I'm pretty sure it'll be the hardest thing i'll have to do but it will do you and baby some good.

Image all those excited squeals when you get home/pick her up!

 

[valentine]

Hey dsl,

Enjoy the last week of leave honey - I felt the last few weeks of my leave was spoilt by worrying about going back and not enjoying time with DD - easier said than done though, I know.

I also wanted to say that people said this to me too, but although I've been able to go back part time - I didn't find it hard at all. I didn't like my job at the time, but it still didn't seem too hard to leave DD, it was (and still is) quite nice to get some time off being a Mummy and concentrating on something else.

Please also remember that you can still re-evaluate things in time too - I know it may seem impossible now, but there is always a way to try change things if you are really unhappy.

Good luck for Monday - I'll be thinking of you.

Valentine Xxx

 

[Squiglet]

People used to say stuff like that to me... and I always reply...yes but at least my boss at work allows me to have a lunch break without stealing all my food and piss without insisting its a team sport.... Work it my break!

Plus I feel that the time I spend with the girls is quality time, BECAUSE I don't spend all day with them, so make the most of the little time I do have...I have to cram a days worth of cuddles into a few hours... and their reactions when mummy comes home makes me feel loved and wanted and ever so special.

 

[BabyMagic]

It will be fine honey. These people aren't being helpful at all

 

[charlie84]

Oh i have been having these comments too

I am back at work next monday and i cant believe the amount of people who are going on about it and how hard it will be leaving her yada yada. My good god, i already know how hard its gonna be without people reminding me all the while. What i would do to stay at home with my baby but unfortunately we dont have that choice

I am currently trying to enjoy my last week of leave with my baby and OH and trying not to think about it too much

 

[KERRYGOLD00]

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[kalia]

I went back to work a month ago and I'm loving it! You get to have some you time, some adult conversation that isn't about babies (I love my baby but I found I had NOTHING else to talk about) and just you wait until you see the smiles you get when you come home!

I think that thinking about going back is far harder than actually being there.

 

[Babylicious]

I enjoyed going back to work, although he was only in nursery one day a week, after the new year it will be three days though.

Tell them to bugger off

 

[Leese]

i really dreaded going back but it was great, all worked out fine and I'm enjoying both parts of my life now. it's difficult when you work in a female dominated profession as everyone thinks they know best! Good luck and I'll be thinking of you!

 

[loz]

I have been back at work since Emms was 5.5 months part-time and TBH I have really benefitted from going back. There are so many advantages - you get time to be you, you dont have to be constantly thinking of baby, more money! Of course it's hard at first but you'ds have to be a stone not to react in some way. One of my friends went back full time and it was fine. You just appreciate each other more when you are at home.

 

[bazaar]

Don't let them get to you!!

I went back when my first was 8 months old, did part time for a month and found it better to do full time (financially). But my little one loved going to childcare and because of that he's fitted into nursery really well - ran in the first day gave me a peck on the cheek and was gone... (sad for me but great for him)

I think with us spending a fair bit of time apart it makes the time we spend together more worthwhile - and less stressful!! As we all know they can drive you bananas some days, work was a good break from that.