Worried I'm going to be a bad mum.

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  1. Lulabell

    Lulabell Well-Known Member

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    Took my sis n 6 yr old nephew to my dads for dinner today. Sis n nephew have come down for 4 days which is nice. But I found myself constantly telling my nephew off. I noticed family members were saying no to him but he wasn't taking notice. He was climbing the banisters, constantly jumping on the sofa, running around, and interrupting us when we were talking.

    My sis tells me I'm too bossy. I don't want to be a bad mum but I don't want a nightmare of a child. What do you guys think? Do any of you worry about this?xx
     
  2. pinkyprincess

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    I can be like that with my brother and sister! Sometimes I think you almost mellow when you become a parent to things like that!


     
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    I think at 6 years he should understand what NO is dont think you are bossy at all.
     
  4. Hunnie

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    I'm exactly like this with OHs little boy who will be 3 next June - I just can't stand to let him get away with anything!

    Today for example he asked for some of my cake bar so I split in two so we could share it. Handed him his half and he kicked off because he didn't have the piece still in the wrapper. I told him that it was still the same size of cake and basically like it or lump it so he started sulking and tried to kick off. I ignored him as I knew the tantrum would last all of 2 seconds (if that) if he was ignored but OHs mother was sat at the table with us and she insisted that I just gave him the bit in the wrapper so he ended up getting his own way. He didn't even eat it?!?!?
     
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    I always find other people's children much more annoying than my own... You'll be a lovely mum, don't worry about it!
     
  6. JensBump

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    I stayed at my parents this weekend and my niece is there every weekend and she is 5 and gets away with everything - I am always telling her off and having talks with her LOL but she needs to know that someone will put her right (that's my thought LOL) plus once I am finished giving off I ask her if she understands why and then give her a hug - that's an aunties job :) You will be a great mum x
     
  7. Mrs. KM

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    It sounds like you're going to be a great mom with well behaved kids! It drives me nuts when kids don't listen. You'll be great :)
     
  8. Sleepy sue

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    Learning a child right from wrong makes you a great mom :) x
     
  9. redbear

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    I get so mad at other peoples children, especially when you see them acting like idiots and there parents dont do anything to stop them. We where in a smallish shop and a little lad was running up and down the isles like an idiot making gun noises and as i turned to leave he almost ran str8t into me... its not that he is going to hurt other people but he was small and would end up hurting himself or damaging the shop (electronic shop) and his dad was just stood at the other end of the shop looking at computer games.
    I thought at least act like you know what your child is doing! x
     
  10. Lulabell

    Lulabell Well-Known Member

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    I hate the parents that take their children into shops wearing those healies shoes and with scooters. They are leathal. The amount of times ive been clipped by a scooter or almost knocked over by a healie wearing child. I told hubby about me telling my nephew off and he said he hoped that i was like this with our child. We both feel that you can love and nuture a child but they must no right from wrong. I'm not having my child disrespect me. But i want them to feel loved as well. Ohhh parenting is going to be fun! LOL
     
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    I think I'd much rather be the bossy looking parent than the one who doesn't seem to give one about what their child is doing!!
     
  12. hugsy

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    Oh i do be the exact same and personally i think wanting your child to have manners and dissapline is being a good parent :)

    I get so worked up with OH nephew is bold and spoilt I do have to bit my lip at times but do say to OH theres no way our child will be let do that LOL

    Im sure its different when there yours and you have them 24/7 rather than a few hours but im defo gonna try and make sure she know what NO means :)

    Your gonna be great hunxxx
     
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    I don't think you're too bossy, you'll teach your child things like that from the get go (long before 6 years old!!) hopefully because they're your standards.

    But on the other hand sis isn't a bad parent either just ermmm different ideas on good manners.
     
  14. Kerrieanne

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    It think it is perfectly normal to worry about being a good parent. we are bound to get things wrong sometimes and most Definately get things right too ;) x
     
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    Me too lol but then i think im quite "hard" on my girls anyway

    You'll be a fab mummy im sure, think we all worry bout how we'll be when we have our babies, its constant is this right is that right etc

    :hugs: xxx
     
  16. Nic36

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    I'm sure you will be fantastic and your LO will grow up respecting you because it will know right from wrong. I also worry that I maybe too harsh, but I believe it is vital that kids are taught that no means no. X
     

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