Worried about telling people we're expecting again

[Sal88]

Hello

DD is only 5 months old and I'm 5 weeks pregnant. People know we wanted a close family but even we were shocked when I fell pregnant the first month of trying. It took 18 months last time!

I'm worried about telling family and friends, I'm pretty sure people will be shocked and maybe even negative but I don't want this pregnancy/baby to be surrounded by all that. We love this little bean as much as we loved DD in pregnancy and want others to aswell. I'm always really affected by what other people think and don't want to get down about it. Don't want people looking down on us. We are a younger family compared to a lot these days although been married for almost 3 years. I guess I'm thinking people will think we've just been irresponsible young parents.

Advice please

Sal

 

[MrsR]

I'd suggest not listening to the negative people but I'm guessing that advice won't help? x As long as you and your hubby are happy and the baby is wanted and loved I wouldn't worry too much with what others think. I think it's a good thing that your children will be close in age and will experience alot of milestones at similar times! Surround yourself with supportive friends/family and talk to your hubby about your concerns. I can't see many people being negative, mostly they'll probably worry about you. At the end of the day this is your and your hubbys decision, noone elses. Big hugs.

 

[mopmum4X]

Hello

DD is only 5 months old and I'm 5 weeks pregnant. People know we wanted a close family but even we were shocked when I fell pregnant the first month of trying. It took 18 months last time!

I'm worried about telling family and friends, I'm pretty sure people will be shocked and maybe even negative but I don't want this pregnancy/baby to be surrounded by all that. We love this little bean as much as we loved DD in pregnancy and want others to aswell. I'm always really affected by what other people think and don't want to get down about it. Don't want people looking down on us. We are a younger family compared to a lot these days although been married for almost 3 years. I guess I'm thinking people will think we've just been irresponsible young parents.

Advice please

Sal

I really hope they are happy for you if not sod them, it's your life, your baby. i know what your going through I've got no 4 on the way and we are going to leave it as long as we can till we tell OH family, there gonna be so mad cos of are circumstances money wise, house wise etc but do you know what even though I'm shitting myself telling them I'm just gonna tell them we're really happy, sod what they say they'll come round to it once baby is here.

 

[mandplus4]

i know what you mean im expecting baby no 5 and was so worried about telling everyone as i knew they would all have something negative to say about it but in the end if you and your hubby r happy then no one else matters xxxxxx
congratulations

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Enjoy your pregnancy and babies - everyone else can go kiss your Dont let what anyone thinks ruin any of your special moments

 

[Piglet10]

people that are negative about such a wonderful thing and a baby that the parents are so happy to be having arent worth having around you at this time. i imagine youll find people may be shocked but of course thats natural but i think people will be happy for you xxx

 

[bwakeling]

Ignore any negativity - it'll be fantastic! Whether this one's a son or a daughter you'll have two kids so close in age they'll be best mates all their lives! That's something that not many people have.

 

[lanny]

i was the same we are onto number 3 and we left it till our 12wk scan to tell anybody cos i just couldnt be doing with ppl and there views. I had told family i wanted another and all i got is 2 is nice stick with 2 even tho my nana has 5 my mam has 4 and my dad has 5 but anyways told them all over the phone after 12wk scan and all sounded happy but havent seen them face to face yet that will be the test lol. But like i thought its me that gunna be left 2 bring them up get the dressed take the to school so i dont see why anybody else matters hope all go's well for you when you tell xxx

 

[nancy]

Like everyone else has said, it's your business and if you're happy then that's all that matters. If they are negative then they're not worth your energy right now. There are a lot of plus points to having them close together, one being that they will be far less demanding because they have each other for company.
Ellie absolutely loves sitting in her bouncer watching the other 2 play which means I can go about the things I need to do. I really thought William would struggle when he had others to compete with but he really loves his sisters and we all have so much fun together, it's more than worth the hard work which goes with it.
I actually think it's harder when you start to get your life back then find yourself having sleepless nights and nappies to change again. Having Sophie was far more of a culture shock than having Ellie - there's 18 months between them.
Wishing you all the luck in the world with breaking the news. xx

 

[Sal88]

Just wanted to say thank you everyone for your comments, I've now put a new post on as the reactions weren't great but your encouragement really helps

Sal xx

 

[Toonlass]

Hey hun, my son was only 8/9 weeks old when i got pregnant with this little baby and i had mixed reactions from family and friends. All were shocked (as were we lol) my dad reacted the worst, he was supportive in a way but he worries so much. I have medium-high risk pregnancies so he was terrified about what i was putting my body through. OH's parents were just in disbelief i suppose and my little brother actually told me to 'get rid of it!'

I brushed off the bad/negative comments and just got on with life. Being pregnant with such a young baby is hard work, especially nearer the end but its amazing what we can cope with. There is a lass on here called Alice, and she has 2 little girls with just 1 year between them and she manages great, infact she's my insperation lol.

Good luck sweetie, and ignore the bad reactions xx