At the moment, me and OH have a rota where one night one of us will bath Poppy, read her a story, bottle then bed, and the other will clear up after dinner and wash/dry-up, and we alternate nights. When my OH does the clearing up and washing up, he waits until 11pm at night to do it, and leaves Poppy's highchair with mushed food over it until 11pm. He never does it straight after dinner. It is really starting to bother me though as I end up doing it because I can't stand everything being left. I suggested that he takes Poppy to bed EVERY night and I do the clearing up, because he doesn't get to see her for long when he gets home from work. His response? "I see her at weekends." - which really shocked me I mean, he ADORES her, completely dotes on her, which is why it suprised me that he seems so reluctant to take her to bed every night. I know he works hard all day, and basically can't be bothered to do anything when he gets home, which I can understand, I know you just want to slump in front of the telly when you get home, but seriously, it's not like I do nothing all day - far from it! I constantly get the "Oh but i've been at work all day" card thrown at me which is really, really starting to piss me off. He seems to think his life can be exactly as it was before she was born. I think I posted something a bit similar to this a few months back But who puts LO to bed in your house? What share of the chores do you both do?