when did you go back to work? am i being selfish?

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  1. Kimbo

    Kimbo Well-Known Member

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    after baby was born, how long was it before you went back to work?

    i can't wait to get a 16 hour a week job, but i want to do it as soon as possible.. possibly about 7 or 8 weeks after she's born.
    do u think that's selfish of me?
    do you think i should be staying at home more?
    my mum will be having Leah, so no problem about childcare, but i'd feel guilty about leaving her so soon :(
     
  2. trixipaws

    trixipaws Well-Known Member

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    ill be back in work in feb when millie will be just turned 8 months. but i wish we could afford for me not to go back at all, id rather be a SAHM tbh, but its a very personal choice. iv never been one for working, my ambition was always to be a housewife! lol im not into all that independency/own money stuff i am a lazy-bones! :lol:
     
  3. Tangerinedream

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    Im going back full time 1 day before Jake is 6 months old. I wish I could do part time too but I just wouldnt be able to afford it :(

    I dont think you are selfish going back part time hun. You will still get to see loads of Leah and you get your own bit of time too :)
     
  4. Squiglet

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    I went back to college when Tia was just 8 weeks old... I'm not a stay at home sorta person and I need something to do...

    This time round, i will be waiting till the baby is three months, just because its when my maternity runs out and its a good age to get the baby into nurseries, wean them etc. I might stretch it to 4 months... it depends.. :think:

    Don't think you're selfish Kim... but you'll be surprised at how much time you will want to spend with your little one. Although a part time job will make you appreciate just how much you love your baby yet give you some down time from being mum... and you get to be kim again for a few hours.
     
  5. leckershell

    leckershell Well-Known Member

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    I'm going back part time (3 days) mid april so he'll be 8 months ish. Not looking forward to it :(
     
  6. clairescunny55

    clairescunny55 Well-Known Member

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    I dont think you're selfish at all hun, i'd go back now if i could, if im honest i would've gone back a few weeks ago. However it was a different story with millie, i didnt want to go back, and i didnt go back until she was 1. xx
     
  7. cloud9

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    your not selfish but you may feel differently when LO arrives.

    I am not working and glad i get to spend every minute with Dylan but now my 3 hours a week i get to catch up are a haven
     
  8. Rubys mummy

    Rubys mummy Well-Known Member

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    I went back full time when Ruby was 6 months, and I love my job so was lookkng forward to being back, but also torn as I knew I would miss her loads...We cant afford to cut my hours-I am the main bread winner and I had a fab promotion when I was PG so it was great to get back and get stuck into my new job role

    We have a really good balance, she is with my mum/OHs mum 3 days a week and nursery 2 days and she is so happy when I leave her with them all, she is coming on so well, and I swear its down to nursery, she loves other kiddies, and shares EVERYTHING!! She went back today after christmas break and was squealing with excitment when she saw her little friends!!

    And the feeling you get when you see them at the end of a hard day in work is amazing!!! I always get butterflies in my tummy at 4pm as I know I will be seing her soon :lol:

    I personally dont think you are being selfish at all :hug:
     
  9. Snuggle

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    Its not selfish but I bet you will feel differently when baby is here :wink:
    I wish I didnt have to go back to work coz I want to be with Maddison all the time but our mortgage is so big that we cant afford for me to stay home :(
     
  10. libs

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    my Mum went back when I was 3 weeks old :shock: (single mum in the 1970s) - and erm...it didn't affect me at all :rotfl: she stopped working when I was 2 1/2 to have my sisters but worked pt from when I was about 10 again - you may be surprised that you won't want to go back that early after you've had the baby - but if you do - then so long as the baby's looked after - don't worry :D
     
  11. Red_Fairy

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    tbh id like to have somthing like a part time job. Only recently have a felt abit stuck in a rut, and with another on the way its unlikely ill be working for a while yet.
    I think after summer 08 ill start making plans, i really want to get back to Graphic design and look forward to being 'me' again.

    Your no selfish at all. I think it'll be good for you, i wish i could do the same :)
     
  12. Redshoes

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    Whatever makes Mummy happy will inevitably make LO happy, its not being selfish at all, though as others have said you may feel differently at the time, just be prepared for changing your plans once LO is here and very best wishes with whatever you decide :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  13. Babylicious

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    I went back to work when Paris was 2 1/2 months old and I regret it now as I missed so much, but like the others I couldn't afford not to work. This time is different as baby will be 6 months old so I'll feel happier and also take longer if I need to as well :D
     
  14. Kimbo

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    thanks everyone.

    i understand what you're saying about missing her too much during the day etc, but I can't afford to stay at home either, because ive just left college now and the part time job i had, so will be on income support until i go back, so the sooner the better as i don't want to stay on IS because i just won't be able to live off that. but it's not just that... i'm looking forward to going back out again :hug:
     
  15. chrystaltips

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    It's an entirely personal decision. There is no right or wrong thing to do. It's whatever feels most comfortable for you. I'm taking 6/7 months off in total as that is the longest I can afford to be not working for. Then, our baby will be in full-time daycare hopefully at my work.

    I would like to have been able to take a full year but 6 months is more than many people get and for that I'm grateful. Plus, as we don't really know anyone else with babies/young children, it will be her only real chance of learning to socialise with other kids which I think is important from a young age too.
     
  16. Guadagnia

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    Hi,
    Im going back and my little one will only be two months old, however I started maternity leave at 6 months due to complications. The other factor is I only work 16 hrs on a sat & sun, so I still have all week with him..

    Its personal choice I guess, In an ideal world Id love to stop at home but cant afford to . :wall:
     
  17. muppetmummy

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    I went back to work part-time when James was 6 months old as that was the maximum maternity leave when he was born.
    I did feel ready to go back at that point anyway and enjoyed the adult company and the chance to be me instead of mummy.
    I would have hated going back full time though. I tried full time for 6 month about a year and half ago and hated being away from James so much, so I went back to part time.
    I plan on going back to work when this one is 8 months old, still part time until it starts school hopefully.

    My sister went back to work full time when both her girls were 6 weeks old and regrets missing out on their baby stages. She's leave them with my mum at 730am and collect them around 6pm. Back in the late 80's/early 90's there wasn't such good maternity legislation so she couldn't afford not to go back to work.

    I think just wait and see how you feel after the birth. If you want to go back don't feel bad.
     
  18. Lola's Mummy

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    I'm thinking of going back to work in April/May but really don't want to go back as i'm going to miss Lola so much but don't really have a choice :(
     
  19. rachie29

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    i'm going back to work after 6mths, purely due to finances. I earn the highest salary so it makes sense. OH is going p/t so he will be at home with LO and then she'll do either a day or 2 in nursery and 1 with grandma...

    its a personal choice..
     

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