when breast isn't best

[missac]

apparantly this is on this morning tomorrow, I will probaly forget about it so thought I would post up here just in case anyone is interested.

 

[cloud9]

would be intrested to see what they have to say

 

[little*red]

i think its maybe just about the fact that the woman was forced to breastfeed when she didnt want to, and therefore she got depressed by doing it and maybe added to PND which made her want to harm her baby?
I dont know if it is though, just a guess. I'll probably watch it though.

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

damn i cant watch it
im at college

if anyone watches it can they let me know what it was about
im interested

 

[Riley's Mommy]

ill try to catch it if im about, quite busy though so im sure i will miss it again lol

 

[Lyn_no3]

it was just about a mother that couldnt latch her baby on properly and the midwivfes etc.. kept saying she would get the hang of it and in the end her baby went from 8lb somthin to 6lb somethin before she reaslised that carrying on trying probs wasnt the best thing for her baby.

thought they made it sound alot worse in the adverts etc.. than it really was, surely she should of realised that her baby was losin weight and even if she wasnt advised to put her baby on the bottle she would of anyway??

 

[missac]

I didn't see it, but it is a difficult one isn't it, you always should really use your mothers instinct, but at the same time place so much trust in people because they do it for a living!

When I was bf Thomas and we had those days from hell where he was basically getting nothing and looking all scrawny, I switched him to bottle before the mw came round because I knew he wasn't getting anything - my boobs were floppy and had no milk in them! I was lucky though, the mw said I had done the right thing and didn't try and push the boob - she said that in the olden days my baby would have died if I couldn't afford a milk nurse because I had nothing!!!

 

[Lyn_no3]

yea i know what you mean, you do trust in these people as they are apparently the ones that know what to do and i guess you look to them for your confidence at first.

i did sound dead harsh and judgemental
but sometimes i do find it hard to believe that most women wouldnt like you did instinctively know to change their baby over to bottle as and when they felt the need to.

 

[missac]

ooh, I didn't think you were being judgemental!!!

 

[Nicky_Jones]

Wasn't she offered any support with getting a good latch? The breast feeding support group I went to was invaluable for that.

 

[Tasha20]

This is the issue tho, there is not enough support or women given good breastfeeding advise, to be honest midwives are run off there feet and dont get the time to spend with you, HVs ( in my area havnt got a clue! )

The support just isnt there

When its your first child and you first go a bfing, you dont know what to expect, the milk doesnt come in for a few days and I thought that there was something wrong I had only a tiny bit coming out for about 4 days but until now I only realised that this is perfectly normal.

Also I think the most inportant thing is wanting to bf, without that your sure to fail

 

[M&Ms]

I remember when I had my daughter 8 years ago. The day after I had given birth a midwife said to me 'I really don't think breastfeeding is going to work for you, this baby is hungry, she needs a bottle.' I was like 'Errrrrr aren't you supposed to be a Baby Friendly hospital????'

I persevered and it worked. I booby fed for 4 months and only stopped when my milk dried up after a very stressful time with my grandmother dying, her funeral and my sister in laws wedding all in the space of a week. I am determined to breastfeed for longer this time if I can. My daughter was fit and well on my milk and was not a sicky baby at all

 

[Tasha20]

breastfeeding isnt for you!! your baby needs a bottle!! jesus christ I havnt heard so much rubbish in all my 21ys of life! I cant believe a midwife would come out with that crap! thats terrible

Thing is tho some still have that attitude

Hun wow well done for perservering, must of been a very hard time when all that happend so quite understandably your milk would b effected

Aww you have all the support here for the next little one

 

[kimmumof2]

hi girls, sorry to steal your thread but whilst we are on the subject, i have recently been considering Bf i didnt with reanna becus to be honest i was young and scared of doing it. i am still in doubt becus i dont know what to expect, does it hurt as much as people say and is it as hard as some people have told me. the other question i have is i was told you have to wait a few months before you can express milk but my mum would want to look after her for a few hours a week to give me a break so would this cause a problem. my OH is also a bit funny about it but i think if i decide to do it i can deal with him but im just in two minds at the moment.

xxxxxx

 

[cloud9]

http://www.itv-thismorning.co.uk/HealthArticle.aspx?fid=2260&tid=2

This is from the show although i missed it..I certainly felt a lot of pressure to breast feed even though it was what I wanted to do...I did have loads of support in the hospital and was really lucky Dylan took it it straight away.

I hate how some mothers are made to feel bad for doing what is right for them

 

[Tasha20]

hi girls, sorry to steal your thread but whilst we are on the subject, i have recently been considering Bf i didnt with reanna becus to be honest i was young and scared of doing it. i am still in doubt becus i dont know what to expect, does it hurt as much as people say and is it as hard as some people have told me. the other question i have is i was told you have to wait a few months before you can express milk but my mum would want to look after her for a few hours a week to give me a break so would this cause a problem. my OH is also a bit funny about it but i think if i decide to do it i can deal with him but im just in two minds at the moment.

xxxxxx

I a going to be honest, Breastfeeding for me was not easy in the begining, but Oli is my first and it was my first go and bfing too.

My nipples were very sore for about 4- 6 weeks but that was because of poor latch, I constantly used Lasinoh cream on my nipples ( which can be left on while feeding) and that prevented crack or blisters, my nipples tuffend up pretty much by 2 months or so and from then my milk was established and both me and Oli were finding it easier.

In the first six weeks it is very important to keep putting baby to the breast, breastmilk digests quicker than forumla so you will feed in small amounts but regularly for the first 6 weeks, until their stomachs are bigger and taking bigger amounts, to be honest Oli's feeds have settled down more so from 4 months onwards so be prepared for that.

As for expressing I expressed when Oli was about 3 or 4 weeks old and Grandma had her for an hour or so and no longer, I wouldnt do it on a regular basis as when you miss one feed one day the next day you will have a job feeding at that time its important you dont do this too much in the early weeks.

Also at the end of the first month 2nd month alot of babies seem to go thru a weird stage of being really fussy on the breast and upset, but thats normal when a growth spurt happens, you must not give formula as you need to keep bubba to the breast to up your supply so it matchs thier needs.

Also in the first few days you will only have a little amount of colostrum until your milk comes in and it will seem as you have no milk ( well you dont!) this is enough for your baby, when your milk comes in be prepared for hard sore boobs, there will be plenty of us here to lend a helping hand ( or pm ) so please before panicking or getting worried just ask !!

Also please find out were your lactation consultants are as they are very good for helping you get a good latch.

I know it is hard and you will want 5 mins to yourself and it will feel like bubba is hanging off your nipple all day, but trust me it will get easier! you will have your 5 mins but it just wont happen straight away

They are truely worth it! its a very powerful feeling when you get there just make sure you get all the help you can

ffs! lol its like an essay

I hope that helps and clears a few things up, lol im on a mission to get Britain breastfeeding!!

 

[Minxy]

surely she should of realised that her baby was losin weight and even if she wasnt advised to put her baby on the bottle she would of anyway??

I have to comment on this. My sister went through a similar thing. My neice dropped from 8lb to under 6 before being re-admitted to hospital at a couple of weeks old.

A brand-new first time mum can question everything, including her 'instinct'. My sis had support (and maybe a little bit of pressure because he's that type of guy) from her OH and just blindly went with the MW, who told her it would level out, even when she expressed her worries. My neice was formula fed eventually and is now a totally gorge 5 yr old but her story stayed with me.

When Stanley was on the light-bed after birth and coughed up some bile, the duty MW told me it was because I was starving him. I was already worried because I hadn't seen any milk (it came in day 5) and with the above story in my mind I panicked and rushed to give him formula. The MW smiled when I asked for the bottle and called me a 'good girl'.

In my mind, neither my sister or I receive the right advice or help and I support any campaign to improve it for others. I intend to try B/F again with future babies, and will ensure support networks are in place from the word go!