I know this is in the wrong area but I need your opinions on this.. On the 5th an arguement happened.. Basically OH has a sister who's 11, they all love playing with each other when we visit his mums house or when they come to ours.. At my house, I was in the kitchen and Ellie asked if they could take crayons upstairs, I said no.. She went back into the front room and then they all went upstairs to play. After Sophie (his sister) had left and I got the kids into bed I found a crayon.. I asked who took it up there and they both said Sophie.. Scott (OH) didn't believe them (she's an angel in his eyes) so he called his mum and spoke to Sophie, she said it was Ellie.. Even Jaycee still said it was Sophie and that's unlike her to lie like that so I believed her.. She said Sophie had lied for her before when they were at his mums and Ellie told me Jaycee hurt her and Sophie said she didn't, Ellie hurt herself.. (I knew she was lying but I didn't say anything to cause probs-how could I prove it??).. Why would she admit to that?? So Scott got more upset with them and threw away the aliens he just bought them (weird aliens with goop crap all the kids at school have )... Naturally this caused an arguement between us.. I spoke to his mum and she said Sophie misheard him on the phone.. She DID take them up there but Ellie said it was okay.. Yes so Ellie was wrong for lying I accept that.. But Sophie took them up.. And that's what they were saying! So Jaycee wasn't lying at all!! Sophie admitted she had lied for Jaycee coz 'Ellie always gets her in trouble'.. Even his mum said she is jealous of the girls she's the youngest and the only girl then two younger girls come along then the baby..who her dad fusses over the moment we get there til we leave. It's understandable.. Now since then I've asked Scott to apologise to Jaycee for shouting at her for lying when she wasn't.. He wouldn't.. Still wouldn't accept Sophie was lying and god that makes me angry!! I aknowledged Ellie lied, but Jaycee wasn't.. And Sophie did!! During the arguement that night he said that Sophie and his mum have complained about the girls while they've been there but didn't want to say to me to offend me.. How am I gonna stop it if I don't know??!! He used it against my girls and it hurt!! All it was was Ellie used too much toilet roll.. well that's all he told me and I don't see what else they could have done!! So I told his mum that if she has any issues with my kids she should tell me so I can fix it! The result was that she spoke to his dad and they agree the girls shouldn't go to her house and they'll see lily when they can.. So they haven't been to their house since and Sophie hasn't been round here either.. Which has upset the girls.. I can deal with that.. His mum has been coming on her own a couple of times a week and I've been popping in theirs while they are all at school so his dad can see her (nothing stopping him coming here..) So as its half term they are all of school.. She's been texting me all week about giving her a bottle all 'subtle' I'm not stupid.. I say the mw can help her with feeding, she says, what on the bottle?.... I say she had her first feed at 11am she says, what she had her first bottle at 11am? I say, no I fed her, she says, oh silly me! GRRRRR!!!!!! And many more all week! More than usual! All 'youll have to give her a bottle if u have to leave her for some reason!!' She was supposed to come over yesterday but didn't.. She complained she hadn't seen her all week.. My fault?? No! So she asked me if Scott was working Sunday.. I said usually why.. She said we would like to see lily.. I thought for a moment and it sounded like she was asking him to bring her alone.. That teamed with the bottle pushing.. I asked if she wanted him to bring lily alone and she said yes that's the only way sophie can see lily.. This kid is 11 yrs old and has no interest in lily whatsoever when we are there just moans her dad pays the baby attention and not her!!! If she even said hello to her I may consider that to be true, but she doesn't! It feels like his mum just wants him and the baby in their lives and not us.. I dot know if I'm being dramatic like Scott says I am but it's really hurt me!! I'm never splitting my kids up how mean is that?? I've told her I've not got a problem with the kids seeing Sophie but she said Sophie is still upset about that fucking crayon row! Bullshit! When I was 8 weeks preg she asked him if she could have the baby overnight!! She has a travel cot ready and everything! I have issues with leaving my baby with someone I don't really know.. I wouldn't like to leave her with my mum overnight at this age! I'd do it coz she knows what she's doing, she has five grandchildren under 8, his mum hasn't even changed her nappy.. And they never look comfortable holding her.. It's still new to them! How mean is that.. The girls never see Scott he works seven days a week, leaves as they wake up and comes home when they are in bed.. They love him to bits and want to spend time with him as do I! So when he doesn't work much on a Sunday we like to see him! How bad would it be if he came home from work on Sunday afternoon and took lily to his mums where the girls aren't allowed?? Please give me ur honest opinions on this! I text Scott about it and he called her n she said I didn't want Sophie around the girls etc etc..!! Like fuck I said that!! I said tues night I don't have a problem with them playing again its Scott who has the problem.. He thought it was best for them not to spend so much time together.. The girls have been sucking their thumbs like Sophie does (which I hate-no offense to anyone!) and hen aske to tidy up with Sophie they shoved it all under their bed!!! They've never done that but Scott still thinks no wrong of Sophie. I love her to bits don't get me wrong just I know she's lied, she's admitted she's lied but Scott won't believe it! Well done anyone who managed to get thru all that!! Just needed a big rant im so angry and upset!! Oh and I think his mum thinks the tongue tie cut was unnecessary pain for lily so I can bf her.. Even tho it can effect ff and weaning.. It didnt even hurt her!