Tobyjuggler
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I am distraught, my partner and I planned a baby I have two kids 15 and 17 from a wife who died young, my partner who suffers depression and is query bipolar has 3 who are 7,13 and 17 from previous relationship.
As we live about 60 miles apart the plan was to buy a bigger house (she currently rents) using solely my money and all live together but not until about June next year to allow my son to complete his exams at the school hes been in since starting senior school.
Both my kids are pretty studious and just get on with work see friends etc whilst hers although nice each have issues, one regarding lack of concentration ?adhd another under the help of CAMHS due to ? Suicide attempt and behaviour issues at school resulting in expelling and the eldest who simply didnt attend school since 15 as he felt it was a waste of time and teachers not showing him respect!
Anyway since becoming pregnant (planned)he has since bought a reptile, a bull terrier moved his girlfriend in and now got her pregnant and my partner said she hoped he would move out soon but couldnt promise it.
Due to this I told her that because the situation has changed I felt that he had made the situation impossible and we have had several quarrels over this matter over the period of about 6 weeks she then text to say were not getting on and need a break and shed keep me up to date as best she couldre pregnancy.
This was after several nice days together and at 24 weeks pregnant and although we didnt argue much 85% of any arguments were around her children and their school/behaviour where she would draw me in for my opinion as her partner.
I feel so sad as we have not communicated now in five weeks and just want to be a great dad again Im unsure if any type of therapy would maybe help.
Thank you and sorry its long post
As we live about 60 miles apart the plan was to buy a bigger house (she currently rents) using solely my money and all live together but not until about June next year to allow my son to complete his exams at the school hes been in since starting senior school.
Both my kids are pretty studious and just get on with work see friends etc whilst hers although nice each have issues, one regarding lack of concentration ?adhd another under the help of CAMHS due to ? Suicide attempt and behaviour issues at school resulting in expelling and the eldest who simply didnt attend school since 15 as he felt it was a waste of time and teachers not showing him respect!
Anyway since becoming pregnant (planned)he has since bought a reptile, a bull terrier moved his girlfriend in and now got her pregnant and my partner said she hoped he would move out soon but couldnt promise it.
Due to this I told her that because the situation has changed I felt that he had made the situation impossible and we have had several quarrels over this matter over the period of about 6 weeks she then text to say were not getting on and need a break and shed keep me up to date as best she couldre pregnancy.
This was after several nice days together and at 24 weeks pregnant and although we didnt argue much 85% of any arguments were around her children and their school/behaviour where she would draw me in for my opinion as her partner.
I feel so sad as we have not communicated now in five weeks and just want to be a great dad again Im unsure if any type of therapy would maybe help.
Thank you and sorry its long post
