Every week, I get together with the other women from my NCT ante-natal group. Its a chance to catch up and the babies get to have a few hours of good social interaction... Anyway, a few of us have noticed that one of the babies in particular is a lot less 'advanced' (not exactly the right word, but close enough). He doesn't smile very much, and if you lay him on the floor, he stays almost completely static (no legs moving, he tends not to even follow you by turning his head), and he doesn't babble the way the others do While we are all on the floor with our LOs (or each others LOs), his mum sits him away from us all. When I was hosting the get together, she put him in the hallway outside the lounge in his carseat, and just left him there, and this week, she just left him on a futon in the corner of someone elses living room. When he starts to cry, it seems as though her idea of entertaining him is to just shake a rattely toy at him while she carries on chatting (she doesn't even look at him!!) or leaving him on a playmat or under a gym. She doesn't ever cuddle him to sleep, she leaves him to cry/scream wherever she has left him, and it gets to the point where its upsetting the other babies. This week, she left him in my friends bouncer chair by my feet while I was sat BFing Tim. She left him there alone while she went off to make a phone call. He started to cry, so I bounced the chair a little with my foot, and coo-ed at him the way I would at Tim, and he gave me the most beautiful smile! When she came back, she said 'he never smiles for me. What did you do to get him to smile?' I told her I just spoke to him... She is following this super-strict routine (think Claire Verity from Bringing Up Baby) so she will put him down to sleep, even when he's not tired (which is why he gets frustrated and cries) and she will sit him on her lap (his back against her chest) when she feeds him, so there is never any eye contact and holding hands during feeding times... Its such a shame as hes a lovely looking little boy, we as a group just thinks he may need a little more attention... Do you think someone/some of us should try to find out whether everything is okay with OH/home? We know she doesn't like her HV, so she isn't likely to tell her if something is wrong. We don't want to seem nosey, we just want to make sure that bubs is a happy boy so he can smile a little more often.