What am I to do?

I'm not sure where to post as I'm at the end of my tether!

My husband suffers badly from depression/ocd and during my recent pregnancy things became really awful - he turned suicidal. It's being treated by drugs and therapy although still very severe.

He's very controlling due to ocd and we could only choose a baby name from his agreed list. He then forced me (by crying/pleading) to change my choice of middle name when we registered the birth. This really upset me.

I felt very vulnerable for the next few weeks and wavered over the baby first name. He then had a meltdown and said he longer wanted to keep this name (although he championed it). I suggested changing to one of my favourites but apparently they weren't suitable. This has infuriated me because he chose her original name.

After consideration, I felt attached to the name she's been called for 7 weeks and would resent changing to another one of his choices! My husband has reacted by crying, in a deep depression, refusing to call her the name and badgering me to change it at every opportunity. Only he won't consider the names I like and keeps suggesting alternatives.


I wanted to talk about rationally but we can't do that. What am to do? Give in and change to another name I feel apathetic about or leave it as is and face a miserable life with him?