Weekly scheduele - turning into all things bb and a sorta diary!

[Dragonfly Fi]

I have decided to to an uber long list of things to do this coming week. Mum flies back to Oz on Saturday and Liam will be obviously going into work Monday morning so i need to keep myself motivated to keep on keeping on. Sitting on a sofa and 'thinking' is NOT an option. I need to have decent amounts of stuff to do and thoughts in my head to keep doing stuff or i will just think 'whats the point' and fester. No good for me Or the baby.

so here goes

Monday;

general tidy-up

have small breakfast (fruit and toast)

Walk through churchill gardens/cathedral and into town - park

grab coffee

buy bread, milk, fruit and veg for week

walk home

put Jasper down for nap

Clean kitchen throughly, wash all dishes and put away bits for the week. Make sure fridge is clean

Do wash load

Make lunch - soup and bread or pasta/tuna, lentils/pasta/cheese

Jasper + mama playtime

Make dinner while Jasper continues to play

dinner @ 5.30/6pm

Jasper bath, story bedtime

go for a run



Tuesday

general tidy

Breakfast of fruit and toast

walk into town - park

coffee

come home

Meet Fiona Yelland

check bills, gas n leccy meters

Jasper nap time

throughly tidy and hoover dinning room and living room, check under sofa/cushions take rug outside and shake it

washload

make lunch - left overs from Monday, pasta/lentils/cheese

Jasper playtime

Make dinner while Jasper plays

Eat at 5.30/6ish

Jasper bath, story and bedtime

spend time with Liam/friends


Wednesday

general tidy

breakfast of fruit, toast, tea

walk into town - park

coffee

get milk/veggies/fruit for next few days

come home

Jasper nap time

sort own bedroom and bathroom, remember to scrub toliet, sink, bath and floor. Remove bedsheets for washing
Jasper playtime upstairs while sorting Jaspers room (and removing bedsheets for washing)

washload

Make lunch

Jasper playtime

Make dinner + eat for 5.30/6ish

Jasper bath, story, bedtime

go for a run


Thursday

general tidy

breakfast

walk into town - park

coffee

walk home through greencroft - Park

Meet Claire either in town or just afterward (depending on weather/timings etc)

Jasper nap

fully tidy kitchen and hoover stairs

Make lunch

Jasper play time

make dinner + eat for 5.30/6

Jasper bath bed and story

go to open mic


Friday

general tidy

Breakfast

walk - park

buy supplies needed for the weekend

coffee

home

make list of small and big jobs to be done over the weekend with Liam

Jasper nap time

make sure house is nice and comfortable and presentable for guests over the weekend

Jasper playtime (upstairs)

make dinner for 5.30/6pm

Jasper bath/story/bed

go for a run (or get really drunk with friends, depending on whats happening)





just thought people might want to join me... its all about keeping on keeping on at the end of the day, its going to be painful for us whatever we do, so we must try and avoid that crazy slump of nothingness and keep ourselves busy.

lets help each other keep on keeping on x

 

[netty]

ooo i thought I was the only one who made lists for myself lol. I have been writing my day to day tasks down after MMC it helps me focus on the real world and not fall back into the dark pit of grief i was in. Working now makes everything easier though x

 

[Sunbeam638]

I like your routine bigbump. I don't have any LOs to keep me busy so I have joined a gym and hit it hard, lost the lbs before my holiday sat and have joined a dance school so I can't meet new people (I moved locations to finally be with oh). Have worked really hard with my job and that area is looking the most positive so can't complain.

The more preoccupied the day the easier it is not to think too much. I love keeping busy my house has never been so spotless and apart from checking PF religiously I have barely watched tv! Im hoping that a (virtual slap me if you like) "positive mental attitude" will make me relax and bring my AF cycles back. Busy is good for the soul!x

 

[CARNAT22]

I am going to get back to my exercise routine next week - I find it's very good release for negative thoughts. I do a boxercise routine which is excellent cardio.

I walk an hour a day but will be adding 4 or 5 boxercise sessions per week in (I may work my way up to 5 sessions a week LOL!)

I have to confess though I hate exercising, I feel and look better for it and I know it is good for me but I hate it. I hate swimming, classes, spinning, the gym, running etc..

Oh well, at least it gives me a focus.

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

see i really did enjoy running... as long as you can keep it up i think it really does make you feel fantastic, it also helps me stay able to do other things in the day, when i run of an evening, its easier to keep busy in the day because it seems to reduce my urge to sit on my arse!

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Right okay, well as life is life i am obviously a bit more clearly about what i am ACTUALLY doing tomorrow (monday)

So

Get up with baby
general tidy
Fruit n toast brekkie (with big glass of water and cup of tea)
Phone council man about drain problem
walk into town via green stuff and park for baby
get coffee + muffin to share with baby
buy school bars, 9 bars and some dried fruit/honey, salad, pie for dinner, kettle, pint glasses (tesco)
walk home
put Jasper down for a nap
scrub down kitchen, including floor and fridge
scrub down bathroom including floo
wash load
Jasper up, nappy change etc
lunch of ham sandwiches, coleslaw and salad, cup of coffee and large glass of water
Jasper playtime, read a book, stacking blocks and sing song
Leave Jasper playing, prepare dinner
eat dinner with Liam at 5.30
Play time with Jasper
Bath, book and bedtime for Jasper
Go for 20min run
General tidy
bed

I know its probably pointless to anybody else that i am marking out my days but its a big part of the recovery process for me, not allowing myself to loose touch on everything and actually as we dont have a routine here in the new house yet, i think its a perfect time to be a bit careful with myself and make sure that i do keep on keeping on.

if anything i hope that i can at least create some positives of this whole situation, allow myself to grieve at the same time as making life a bit better for Jasper and a bit clearer for myself.

 

[dyscochick]

I think it's really positive, and if it helps you, we want to hear it! Hope it goes according to plan tomorrow xxx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Thanks... just good to have it written down somewhere x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Well today is going Really well I have forgotten to have a big glass of water with brekki though so i am having a big ole drink now to make up for it.

Just waiting for the floor in the kitchen to be fully dried before i continue cleaning in there. its hard because its SO small in my kitchen (and we managed to flood the floor yesterday coz Liam hadnt wired the washing machine in :O)

Bathroom is spotless, i did the floor, sink and just need to give the loo a clean tomorrow (but have bleached it)

bought a half price really nice kettle from Sainsbury's and 4 pint glasses for 4 quid!

didnt manage to get school bars or 9 bars, i think they sell them at the big tesco which isnt too far from my house now, i think i will walk up there tomorrow and grab those bits n bobs (if i have time)

Jasper is asleep and should be for around another hour, plenty of time to finish the kitchen and then make some lunch for when he wakes

feel good, positive and enjoying the sunshine

 

[netty]

glad to hear you are feeling positive hun, a routine always makes me feel better

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

now i am hungry and Jasper is still not awake!! Lazy boy

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Okay well I am back from my run! I don't know how far I went but I imagine it was over a mile which is great as I haven't run in months. It felt really good,the worst bit was physicing myself up to get out the door! Now liam is now doing his last ever maths test and I am going to watch eastenders (and then jump on him probably !

I really feel like snacking this evening so am sticking to seaseme snacks and fruit.

Will update later with my tomorrow plans x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

damnit! Should have written a list last night for today! Now i feel all peculiar!

anyway

Jasper is up (finally he got up at 8.30!)
having fed him some marmite on toast, i had one piece of toast, we are going to share some grapes
next on the list i am going to dress Jasper and dress myself
generally tidy the whole of the downstairs
hoover the whole of the downstairs
put a washload on
I have to get a bus to my friends house about 10 miles away because i am spending the afternoon with her. So will probably walk into town from there and go to the park, must remember a bottle of milk so i can get Jasper to sleep on the bus
Then later i have decided to make mash/cabbage/sweetcorn and kiev for tea. but there is a slight chance that Liam will be home before me so we can make it together...
later i am going to go for another run because i did really enjoy getting out last night and Wednesday looks HECTIC (2 friends coming over for dinner and also Anna's twin boys! Madness) so i will spend all day prepping veggies and whatnot

So there we are, a rough plan of the day

feel better now! And best get moving i only have 3 hours until my bus leaves!!

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Well... i have finished everything! except the going out to visit my friend of course

Need to pop by the market on the way into town for some bananas for the baby

Excited about seeing Jenny now. Also excited that i 'might' be pregnant after BD last night Probably not, but i can hope

 

[dyscochick]

yey fingers crossed and lots of you are so positive and pro active, i really hope it all rubs off on a sticky bean! xx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

I sm confident that when i start ovulating again we will be able to fall pregnant. I am just hoping its not too long until i start ovulating again!

In the mean time i am just going to enjoy Jasper and having a new house, today was the first day i felt a pang of excitement that we are moved into our own place. I got up to get coffee and it was in OUR kitchen and in OUR house Thats not happened before

So anyway, today was good, i went to see my friend (who is 20 weeks pregnant) and that was really nice though i did wish we could be talking about how close in age our children are rather than discussing my horrid news and what not.

I came back and arranged a new tattoo session with Gilbert. I bought him 3 new UV inks before he did my tattoo and he is going to do a few more on me and Liam with that money so its money well spent i think!!

He asked me to get him some invisible ink and also some electric blue so i ordered him that and also ordered him a UV light which slots onto his tattoo gun, i think thats important for him to do a good job really.

Hes coming over on Saturday to finish it off (well sort of, it will probably need some cleaning up in a month or so when everything is healed properly)

I was feeling a bit down and low when i came home earlier, so i ended up munching out on crisps and malteasers (naughty fi) but Liam said it was okay and i felt like it soo...

tomorrow will be hectic, i will be making dinner for 6; myself, Liam, a friend, her twin boys and also our ex-housemate.

so tomorows list

dress Jasper
make brekki
tidy livingroom, diningroom, kitchen and hoover
walk into town
park
post stuff for liam
buy stuff for stirfry
meet friend for coffee
meet friend for lunch
meet Liam from college (he finishes early tomorrow whoop)
tidy bedroom
bathroom
prep dinner
put baby to bed
cook
eat (finally, with friends)
wash up
sex
bed

mental... but you know what this keeping busy is really helping, i feel positive and fresh and happy

yay

 

[dyscochick]

Yay for the lists, I love that finally settling in feeling in a new place, I still remember that feeling from almost exactly a year ago in our new house. I don't know anything about tatoos, what does invisible ink do, is it UV reflective? so how would you see that tatoo? or is that the aim? I'm intrigued and cant wait to see it when you decide you are ready to reveal it! xx

 

[netty]

so good to hear how positive you are hun, you are an inspiration!

LOVE UV tattoos, I used to be a body piercer and tattoist back in 2003 and they were just bringing that UV ink out but i never got to use it, you have to post a piccy i was thinking of having the phrase

''A Thousand Words Can't Bring You Back,
I Know Because I Tried
And Neither Can a Million Tears
I Know Because I Cried."

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

the tattoo is on my 'where shall i have my rememberance tattoo' thread at the moment, but its got no ink on it.

hang on i will upload a picture on here so we can chat about it x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

the idea is to have the wings done in UV purple and tipped in UV blue (and then the bottom wings reversed)

then i think we are going to have the inside-y bits of the body (the thick black lines will be shaded in) in orange and green

then i will use UV ink right around the outside of the tattoo so that when the tatt is under uv, it will look like its a negative of the image thats there

if that makes sense