My mother-in-law has always been an issue. To explain in some detail, because it is an EXTREMELY ODD situation, will be necessary. My husband and I were technically step siblings when his dad and my mom married when we were 16. So, we have very confusing family relationships. His mother is a narcissist and a pathological liar, who loves either yelling at you, or making out as a victim in martyr in any situation she doesn't get what she wants. (When cheating on his father, she lied about being abused so to get out of the marriage with as much support and money as she could get, for example. She also emotionally abuses all the children, however, emotional abuse cannot be proven, so nothing can be done for them, sadly...) She is, 100% by definition, toxic. I tried to tolerate her for my husband (who is finally start to see her true colors but has issues accepting it because it is, after all, his mother) but it still puts a strain on our relationship. When we found out I was pregnant, we moved away from where she lived, and to where my mom and his dad lived, so as to both have family and to keep the child away from such a toxic environment. The other reason is so that the child won't have to deal with the past problems of its family, that have nothing to do with them, but she is known to feed.....misinformation to children to make them turn against others. However, now that she knows (I am now 14 weeks), she is pulling guilt-trip after guilt-trip on my husband and now he and I are disagreeing on what the relationship between her and our child should be. He believes there should be monitored visits sometimes, just never with the child alone with her. I feel that would be similar to letting a devil near our child, as long as we sat nearby and watched! (Needless to say, HE DID NOT like that analogy). I honestly wouldn't care or mind if our children NEVER met her. The funny thing is, he says I am only like that to his family, when I have the same feelings toward my biological father as I do his mother, so I am not being biased, I don't think. (Since my husband doesn't want them meeting my dad either.) Not having to worry about her with our children, I think, would be less strain on me, my husband (though he doesn't believe that), and the child. Maybe I am just being narrow-minded, or maybe he is. Any advice on what any of you would do?