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Melody

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I know this isn't pregnancy related but really need some advice. Love my mum to bits but she is a heavy drinker drinks every day without fail she is already bed ridden and im afraid she'll get even worse and i need her to be ok especially now as im pregnant and i dont want the stress she gets really mouthy when shes drunk.
 
Oh Melody, :hug: I think you will have to concentrate on yourself and not take on your mum too much. You can't help a drinker, they have to want to help themselves. Do you have someone else who can be there for you? A partner or a best friend? Maybe try to limit your visits to her to the mornings, before she's had too much so that you take on the least stress? My grandfather was an alcoholic and I know how hard it can be. xxx
 
I live with her hun not moving in with my partner until nearer the time the bub is born when we can find a bigger place. And i really dont wanna fall out with her x
 
You dont need to fall out with her. But you must prioritse yourself, your mental health and therefore the health of the baby. I would suggest trying to move out as soon as possible, but obviously dont make it anything to do with her. Just say that now you are expecting you and your partner want to live together. That he wants to take care of you and be part of the pregnancy, which i'm sure he does. You can still get a bigger house together later?
 
Hi Melody, you need to worry about yourself and the bean; your going to be a mother and you do not need your own mothers influence if she puts a lot of stress on you. You think about you, as you are the only person who will be looking after yourself and beany.. hugs x
 
Star fish is right - you can't help her. She has to hit the point where she she really wants to help herself. You say she is bedridden? How is she getting the alcohol? I'm so sorry for you alcoholism is a dreadful, awful disease that destroys families. You do need to put yourself and your baby first though - maybe that will be the kick she needs to seek help. A support group may help you too as it must be so hard for you when you feel such love and loyalty to her to watch her destroy herself. xx
 
She has a problem with her nerves that she can't walk too far or stand for too long. My step dad or brother gets her the alcohol if they say no then she gets really nasty. Shes been to alcohol group when my younger siblings went into foster care and that didn't help either its a horrible thing.
 

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