Update

[littlemiss83]

Hi everyone

Just a bit of an update

I've had 3 BFN's now. And i'm 5 days late on my totm. Still got exact same symptoms and i'm very much "feeling pregnant" i've only felt this once and that was with my first.

I've been on the pill on and off for 13 years and even with different brands ect, i've never had any symptoms when coming off the pill, or a missed totm.

Funny thing is...every time I get a BFN I want to have a baby more. Strange eh.

I keep trying to think to myself that all this could just be my body being funny! Annoying none the less.

 

[LoopyLouize]

Hey Littlemiss83,

Its so frustrating isnt it! Im 9 days late and had about 3 BFN's...

I got fed up of doing HPT so went out and bought some OPK's when I was 4 days late out of curiosity and they are all VERY dark lines.. id say the 16th looks positive and that I have only just ovulated which has taken my cycle from 27days to 56days or so instead. Im getting so fed up!

I have had a break out of spots and lots of sickness today.. To the point where I had to stick my head down the works toilet today (not very pleasant)

FX you have a shy BFP xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

I'm not very clued up on all the pregnancy terms - whats OPK?

Your right it is very frustrating, I think its the not knowing, and not knowing wether the symptoms are just in your head, you start doubting yourself. I really just dont want to take any more HPT's coz it kind of upsets me to get a BFN...all this has made me realise how much I do want another. Now I need to decide wether i'm gonna keep on trying or go back on the pill.

OH does want another, but he's like me, he's not actually willing to decide to try. lool I suppose it takes something like this to push that decision - when I get BFN its like having something then having it taken away. If he said to me 100% defo wana officially try, i'd go for it, but he hums and haws about it.

I'm literally thinking of nothing else but having a baby, I cant even concentrate in work. It might not be quite as bad if i wasn't having so many symptoms.

Is there any other reason why you might be 9 days late? Were you on medication or anything? Your defo having the symptoms..when I was about 9 weeks in with my youngest, I was sick all day every day for 6 months, i struggled to keep my job it was so bad, i had to take a bag to be sick in everywhere i went....the joys.

 

[LoopyLouize]

OPK - Ovulation predictor kit

Aww hun im sure once he starts to see how its affecting you he will start to think along the same lines too!!
How long have you been off the pill for now??

I havn't been on medication since my last depo shot nearly a year ago now!! The only thing I have done differant this month is take Folic Acid every day!! I dont feel under stress.. If anything I have been more relaxed this month. I don't really have any other symptoms so Im not really convinced that its morning sickness Im having.. I don't have the tender boobs or bloatedness etc.. The sickness only started today so I think I may just be coming down with a bug Who knows! Im fed up of buying tests now so Im just going to try stick it out until after Xmas and then test again if AF still hasn't arrived!

 

[littlemiss83]

If you've done nothing different this month, then there's no real reason why your totm should be late, unless its stress?

I didn't get any morning sickness as such, just constant sickness - its kinda like having the dry boke (sorry tmi) when my stomach was empty was when I was more physically sick, but because of the constant sicky feeling, I didn't eat as much. I didn't really get sore boobs untill far on in pg..which was when they started filling with milk.

Yesterday I didn't get a lot of symptoms but today, my stomach feels like i've done a million sit ups and it totally kills my stomach when I lean over or stand up or anything.

Defo not gona test again til either xmas eve, xmas day or boxing day (not decided wot one yet) not that it matters coz it will probs be another BFN!

 

[PrettyFx]

Hey girlies...

Good luck for whenever your testing...


xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

Hey PrettyF how are you keeping?

I'm thinking of testing on xmas day coz it will be a nice wee present for OH, but dont wana end up doing something cheesy like wrapping up the test or something (coz its tempting..lool)

Stomach not as bad today with the stretching feeling but still feeling sick quite alot.

I just dont feel like myself at all I have a fuzzy head as if i'm stoned

I've actually been quite good today with not thinking about things, work keeps me busy during the day...but i finish on Thurs and its gonna be a looong break from work with all this on my head!!

 

[littlemiss83]

Dont know if anyone is still following this thread.

Just a bit of an update

I'm feeling so bad for myself, and have been crying my eyes out.

Its been 2 weeks since I took a test, took 2 this morning and both BFN's.

I have been going through this for weeks now (i know its nothing compared to ppl who have been ttc for ages)

Its been almost 4 weeks since I started having all these symptoms. Still feeling exactly the same and i've still not had my totm.

Am I out of the game? Surely if I was pg it would show by now.

Can someone help me - i'm ready for

Also - there's no point in us ttc because i've obvs not been ovulating if i've not had a totm

I want my life back - i hate this limbo.

Sorry for the moan ladies - actually do feel a bit better after that!!

 

[linxminx21]

hiya hun
im sorry your feeling so rubbish about it all and i know its hard waiting for AF

have you not being to the doctors and asked for a blood test/ they tend to start testing after the 2 week late mark!

when i fell pregnant with my son i didnt have a possitive result untill i was 9 weeks pregnant! i had lots of different brands and even some at a family planning clinic!!

he is now happy, healthy 5 year old

good luk hun and i really hope you get what you want

 

[littlemiss83]

Awww thanks for that Linx

I haven't been to the doctors yet, because I came off the pill about 7/8 weeks ago...and I duno if he'll say....its probably your body adjusting to that.

I could always tell the doctor whats happened and say I wana go back on the pill but dont wana hurt baby "if there is one" - and since i've got all the symptoms could he blood check me before I go back on them again. But I defo wont be going back on the pill for a wee while anyway, possibly not at all.

Is it only poas they do at fam planning? Or can they do bloods too?

 

[LouiseB]

Hiya

I'm really sorry that you are feeling so down about everything but it's perfectly normal for you to feel so desparate, regardless of how long you've been trying.

How long have you been off the pill for?

When you take the pill, it controls your cycles and your own natural ability to do that is weakened. Then when you stop the pill, your cycle goes crazy.

Your natural ability to control your cycle needs times to build up strength and until that happens, your cycles will not be predictable.

So, your lack of period doesn't mean that you are not ovulating - it means that your body is slow to produce hormones and slow to respond to the changes in hormones.

It will get better, but it is normal for it to take several months.

All i can suggest is that you do not go back on the pill unless your or your hubby decide that you definately do NOT want any more children.

Then also use ovualtion prediction kits, because there is a very good chance that you are still ovulating just not when you expect to

 

[littlemiss83]

Hiya

I'm really sorry that you are feeling so down about everything but it's perfectly normal for you to feel so desparate, regardless of how long you've been trying.

How long have you been off the pill for?

When you take the pill, it controls your cycles and your own natural ability to do that is weakened. Then when you stop the pill, your cycle goes crazy.

Your natural ability to control your cycle needs times to build up strength and until that happens, your cycles will not be predictable.

So, your lack of period doesn't mean that you are not ovulating - it means that your body is slow to produce hormones and slow to respond to the changes in hormones.

It will get better, but it is normal for it to take several months.

All i can suggest is that you do not go back on the pill unless your or your hubby decide that you definately do NOT want any more children.

Then also use ovualtion prediction kits, because there is a very good chance that you are still ovulating just not when you expect to

Thanks for that - I might actually buy some of the ovulation kits.

I've been off the pill for around 7/8 weeks now.

I have came off it before and even though there has been slight changes in my totm, generally its only a day or 2 difference. Plus i've never had symptoms like this before when coming off the pill...which makes it even more suspicious for me.

There is defo a high chance i'm not pg and my body is playing tricks - to be honest i wouldn't be absolutely devastated if I am not pg, as I know I have loads more chances to try. But I get upset with the BFN's as I would like a baby.

Just to add - when I fell pg with my little girl - i was on the pill, had to come off it for a week in order to start a diff brand of pills, and during that week, i had no symptoms and fell pg within days (soooo sorry to those ttc...i really dont want to upset anyone)

Thanks again for the advice

 

[linxminx21]

that happened with me and my son alfie i was actually on the pill, its hard to see now that i fell pregnant on contraception now 5 months in and its seems so bloody hard to fall, i did everything right last month too but it obviously wasnt meant to be, XxX
good luck hun and maybe just go and speak to your doctor??

 

[mumofmany]

i think sometimes it just takes longer to come out your system than other times, my friend had never had a problem coming off pill and getting her cycles back to normal when she tried for her 1st children, but this last time was awful for her, it took her 10 weeks to get her 1st af and then every month after it was 8 weeks or 5 weeks then back to 8 weeks, when she actually got pregnant she didn;t get a positive test till about 9 weeks since af but when she had scan it was worked out that she was about 4 weeks pregannt then, so she was still ovualting just at a later time than she normally would, so i wouldn;t give up hope you may well be ovualting just later on.

 

[littlemiss83]

Thanks again ladies.

I totally agree about the pill messing up our systems once we come off it. I've not built my hopes up that i'm pg, so if this is just the pill...fair do's. I have plenty of opertunities in the future to try for a baby.

I've always known coming off it can do this, but one thing I cant get my head around is the round ligament pain. I've researched a bit about it now and I cant find any evidence of coming off the pill causing round ligament pain. This isn't on and off, its constant. Only experienced it twice - now and my first pregnancy.

 

[LoopyLouize]

Hi Hun,

How are you feeling??

Im sorry to hear you have been stuck in limbo

I know what you mean about the doctors.. they will find any excuse to fob you off.. Best thing to do is just exagerate a little about the time coming of the pill... etc .. Nobody knows your body better than yourself..
Another thing that I have read could help is Primrose Oil Tablets (if your not pregnant that is) .. They help maintan and give you a regular menstrual cycle... Whether this is safe whilst TTC though I am not sure as I havn't checked. x

 

[littlemiss83]

Hi Everyone

Hope your all keeping well.

Not anything exciting to report i'm afraid.

My doctors was closed on Monday and today (for me to drop off my sample) - the doctor must've forgot when he told me to go back in - there was a power cut so they just told me to pop back in.

So i'll phone tomorrow - as i'm back at work and i'll need to see if i can pop in after work with a sample - doc was kinda sounding like he wanted me to make an appointment - but i dont see the point if its just to drop off a sample!

Still the same symptom wise - I dont know if its actually a symptom of pregnancy but i've done alot of walking today and i keep getting stitches in my side, and now that i'm home, the stretching feeling in my stomach muscles is alot worse, was carrying heavy bags earlier but normally that wldnt be enough to caus stomach ligament pain.

I'm feeling more pg than ever - but still BFN on a test this morn. So i'm defo not getting my hopes up in any way - although a BFP would obviously be welcomed.

I was going to buy some more HPT's today - but I resisted, i'm getting fed up with it all - i'm just gonna wait and see what this doctors test comes as. Might also phone my local maternity hosp and see if they can do a blood test. Its actually closer to me than my doctors.

Anyway ladies, sorry for rabbiting on.

Hope you are all well, and baby dust to you all.

 

[SunnyGirl]

So frustrating for you hun
I've been there and it's bum.
Hoping you get a bfp out of this
Xxxx

 

[littlemiss83]

Well, I phoned the maternity hospital today, explained my situation, they said that they do not do pregnancy tests, not even urine ones!! Unless i quote "its an absolute emergency" loool - or I've got a doctors referral.

So I phoned my doctors and asked them if its necessary for me to make an apointment to hand in a sample, she said, drop it off and if they want me to make an appointment, they'll phone.

I'm not holding out much hope because i've heard that the doctors tests are the same as HPT's. It will be getting sent to the "labs". Doc did say they are stronger than HPT's but i'm doubting it.

I think i'll get another BFN with this - and prob have to wait weeks, go back to doctors, then ask for a referral.

I'll post back tomorrow and let yous know how long i'll have to wait for the results.

 

[littlemiss83]

Thats my sample at the doc's. Cant believe all this carry on with doctors and hospitals, cant believe they're not more willing to help me. I'm now extrememly worried about the hardness in my stomach. I had breast cancer a few years ago and i'm getting panic attacks coz i've been worrying about something wrong with my womb. Its very possible that something else is up with me.

Get results from doc's sample on Monday, and if its negative, i'm gonna keep hassling til he refers me to the hospital...either that or he's gona need to give me something to control these panic attacks. All this is driving me insane