unsure of the father?? Please help

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  1. heaven11

    heaven11 New Member

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    Hi Guys,

    This is my first time ever being pregnant so i'm totally new to understanding how this works.

    Ok so I have been on and off with my partner for 2 years we had sex on October 15th *unprotected*. Just to point out (i'm not proud) this is not the 1st time we haven't used protection.

    Shortly after we had a huge argument and decided to part ways - mutual decision.

    I came on my period 22nd October the normal 7 days and this is the date I usually come on, this was a totally normal period.

    So on 8th November I had *PROTECTED* sex with someone else.
    low and behold 22nd November came and no period. 4 days later still no period so I did a pregnancy test (never ever thought I would be pregnant) and it states positive. I've done 3!! I did the digital one and it says 2-3 weeks.

    So initially I thought it would be the guy on 8th Nov (because it was 2-3 weeks ago). But i'm hearing if i'm 2-3 wks im really 5 weeks (which doesn't make any sense to me) so that would mean it can't be his because we had sex 3 weeks ago today?????


    P.S yes I've learnt my lesson I've already beaten myself up enough :(
     
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  2. Emily0505

    Emily0505 Well-Known Member

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    A pregnancy is dated from the first day of your last period so you would be 5 weeks and 3days today if the bleed you had in October was a period.

    It's possible that your contraception failed as nothing is 100%

    BTW abortion is a banned topic on this forum so you should stop talking about whether or not you'll keep it depending on who the father is, otherwise the thread will be closed.

    XX
     
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  3. JD.Deedee

    JD.Deedee Well-Known Member

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    You get two weeks "free" 2-3 weeks means that was around the time of conception/ovulation. I would say it's from the guy on the 8th of November as you've had a period after you've had sex with your ex.


     
  4. heaven11

    heaven11 New Member

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    Thank you x
     
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    Laura1992 Well-Known Member

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    Stressful situation, sorry you're in this position. I am not an expert on dates I'm afraid, so I can't offer advice there. I believe there is a way to ascertain who the father is in early pregnancy, but it's not without risk and certainly not a risk that everyone would be willing to take. You need to have a good think about how you would cope on your own if it's not the outcome that you would ideally like. Best of luck xx
     
  6. heaven11

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    Thank you, much appreciated xx
     
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    I think it would be the one on the 8th but it's hard to know exactly how far you are until the first scan x
     
  8. Blueclass

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    My clear blue said 2-3weeks but I was 5 when I went doctors. I agree you won't really know till a scan and you may even have to do a DNA x
     

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