Hi all. I'm not sure if this is the correct forum, but hoping others may have felt the same at some point. Basically, my daughter was born 3 months ago and the first few weeks of her life were spent on NICU. Thankfully she's now fine and is progressing so well. She's my first baby and I think I'm possibly being a little over protective* (possibly because of the way her life started). My partner has another daughter who is 11. She's a great girl and dotes on her younger sister. The problem im having is letting his daughter hold her and lift her without panicking she's going to drop her. My partner doesn't understand my concerns. He's very keen (as am I) for her to be involved but I struggle when she's holding my daughter and shes not supporting her head correctly. I recently noticed her lifting her out of the* car seat and was petrified she was going to drop her. I mentioned it to my partner who said she's done it before* (I've never seen this before) and "she's not a child ". I still see an 11 year old as a child* (albeit not a young child). When my daughter was born, I said to my partner that I do want his daughter involved but she can only hold her while one of us is in the same room and she can push the buggy but not along main roads. My partner seems to take a rather laid back attitude and turns it back on me and that im being too harsh. I possibly am, but has anyone else been in a similar position? I really don't want to come across as a bad person and I wish I was more laid back.