Too Extreme :(

dannii87

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I don’t even know where to start!

I got signed off from work on Monday for 2 weeks (due to stress at work & SPD) which takes me into my holiday and then maternity leave which means I’m now 33+5 and don’t work! I drove home as quickly as possible on Monday and collapsed into the sofa… For all of 5 minutes! I was then up and about cleaning, tidying etc.

I’ve been like it for about 5 weeks but nowhere near the extreme I’m at now! When my mum & step dad went on holiday a couple of weeks ago, I cleaned the house from top to bottom to busy myself (also because I have a weird craving for cleaning products – the smell ladies! Not the taste lol!) That’s where it all started!

In all seriousness though, I’m a bit worried because A) I am supposed to be resting because of SPD and B) it’s become obsessive…

There are quite a few problems though;

- Despite the fact that when my pelvis clicks and aches and the shooting pains, I’m thinking “nope, ignore it, carry on” and I just can’t relax unless I’m cleaning.

- My Mum is worried because as soon as she gets home I say “we’re out of air freshener, bleach, glass spray, cloths, Daz, washing up liquid, dishwasher tablets etc” I’m using WAY too much stuff and it’s costing a lot of money to keep replacing it.

- I’m finding myself not trusting the dishwasher and thinking I can clean the stuff better myself so I’m doing so much washing up it’s unreal.

- I wait around for washing to end so I can put another load on (and I’m washing maybe 2 tea towels that were only put up – clean – yesterday!). When I hang the washing on the airer, I go downstairs constantly to see if any of it is dry so I can iron it.

- When my Mum goes downstairs to do the packed lunches I follow her and will make a tea or do something so it looks like I’ve gone down to do something when really I’m going down to watch her and make sure she puts everything in the right place.

- As soon as everyone gets home from work I’m on tenterhooks waiting to see if they put their coat and shoes away in the cupboard.

- I took EVERYTHING out of the cupboards yesterday and rearranged everything and cleaned all the cupboards out, I clean the surfaces religiously and my step Dad keeps using a spoon to make tea and not putting it in the dishwasher, he’s putting it in the sink which not only upsets me (I know, I’m being silly but I can’t help!) but it’s also stressing me out!

- We live in a 3-storey house and because I want to hoover every day, I can’t carry the hoover backwards and forwards so as soon as the first person comes home I ask them to take it up/down for me.

It’s making everyone in my house really uncomfortable :(

It’s become like OCD or something… I set my alarm in the mornings so I’m downstairs when everyone leaves so that no cups or plates are left out… Argh it’s sooooo bad!

I’ve just mopped the kitchen floor and have been down twice already to see if the floor is dry yet as I have dark washing to put on :( xx
 
OH MY GOD!!

CALM DOWN LADY!!!

I thought I was bad, but you really have gone to the extreme!! In all seriousness, you MUST get some rest!!!

I've done the cupboard thing and get obsessive at weekends (like getting up at 6am to be flat pack queen! and all the ebaying clear out I've done!) But by the time I get home from work I am just toooo tired.

You MUST listen to your body and rest when you can.

Is there anything you can do to get you out the house for a few hours a day? Even just swimming or something like that?
 
Do you want to come and live with me for a while?????

I feel way tooo tired to do anything at the minute and the house is starting to look like a tip..... it doesn't help that we're decorating the downstairs play room and dining room too so everything is out of place. I just hope it get done before I start nesting!

On a serious note though Danni, you should be careful with all those cleaning chemicals, not all of them are good for the baby so make sure you're not using too much
 
Some one needs to tie you to the bed or a chair for awhile so you can relax!!! This isn't good for you hun, especially with your SPD you need to give yourself time to chill out and relax, theres plenty of time for rushing round like a headless chicken when baby gets here :rotfl: Could you not go stay with some one else for a few days then you wont be able to excessively clean with out being rude?!!
I have no inclination to clean at all yet, I want a tidy house and keep on top of the cleaning but I don't WANT to do it wish I could get my nesting instinct abit so I could find the motivation to do all the stuff around the house I want to do!
 
I deffo need to calm it down! I'm on here trying to use some of this time up but I still feel a little on edge because my brother's due back in an hour lol!

xx
 
Chill out.

You're bored. It's horrible this part, just waiting for the due date and have nothing to do.

I'm so up to date with my washing and everything is put away, cleaned carpets, bathroom is clean. I also wait for DH to get home to take hoover upstairs for me.

In one of my previous posts I put about my SPD hurting but ignoring it and carrying on anyway, you should have seen me hobbling around Tesco earlier with a look of determination on my face.

I've limited myself to one job a day now and absolutely under no circumstances to do anything in the evening after dinner but watch TV.
 
You really need to slow down and get some rest. You'll end up driving yourself mad if you carry on the way you are. Try and get out everyday, even if its just for a little walk, it will get you out the house and might stop you wanting to clean so much. Make the most of the time you have off work and have some "me" time. :hug:
 
Hazel said:
I've limited myself to one job a day now and absolutely under no circumstances to do anything in the evening after dinner but watch TV.

Yeah you're right, I think I might write up a little list of things to do and once they're done to just leave it... Thing is, I honestly thought I'd be a slob during these next 6 weeks - there's still time though :shhh: .
 
:D Sounds like nesting to me- I started about 34 weeks and didn't stop until Evie was born at 38 weeks! :rotfl:

I got really into baking too...

Try and get some rest but I know it's hard. It's just your mind wanting everything perfect for the baby. In the 'olden days' women used to scrub the floors during labour because it helps the baby get into position... save your cleaning til then! :lol:
 
Dannii I demand that you watch at least 4 hours TV a day, and then a further 4 hours of web surfing!

You're making me feel really bad, I don't think I'll ever get this nesting thing :( My house is a tip but I'm too knackered to do stuff!

Now, no more cleaning lady! You need to conserve energy for when Evie decides to make her appearance :hug:
 
wish i could do anything around the house but my SPD is that bad i cant even attempt too!

You know your own body hun, sounds like you need to slow down a little,
 
You really need to calm down hunny!! you will make your self ill and you will have no energy when your LO arrives. xxx
 
Just like everyone else has said slow down dude!!!!
Maybe do the tidying but limit it to a certain amount of time each day, u need to get used to not doing as much because when the miniature is here u just won't be able to!


x
 
WOW! That is some extreme nesting. Definitely sloooow down and learn to relax. Try & conserve your energy for the birth and afterwards. I would (and am going to) take Hazel's advice and only do one thing a day. In fact I was reclining on the sofa today, watching Criminal Mind and eating chocolate thinking, "this is the life"... I HIGHLY advise you do that instead!. :D
 
Sounds like nesting to me.

I wish I could do even half of that. My SPD means I can barely dress myself without assistance. I can't even get out of the bath now either.
 
I know it's easier said than done, but I agree with everyone else... SLOW DOWN!!! I went to an extreme a few years ago without pregnancy being a driving force and it is a very slippery slope. You have to tell yourself over and over when you feel it coming on that it isn't right, it is too extreme and you should not be doing this. Especially with your SPD and anaemia... You want to make sure you can do all of the things necessary when you are having the baby and when you actually have the baby. You can do some real damage to your pelvis if you aren't careful. I have SPD that my physio decided pre-dates my pregnancy, and she said it is going to take a long time to recover from and probably regular trips to an osteopath, all because I didn't know to be careful before. SO BE CAREFUL!!!
 
freepie said:
i hoovered the ceiling the other day!!!!!!!!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Don't give me any ideas lady!!!

You're all right, I do need to calm it. I'll be a regular on here soon (and I mean VERY regular) to try and stop this stupid obsession!! x
 
Ditto what they have all said.

AND especially the bit about coming round to our homes to help out with your mad obsession! :lol:
 
Hun, you come and live with me a few days hey!!? :lol:
No seriously like others have said, it sounds like your nesting! I have been going clean crazy for the last week and Im hoping it goes soon as Im in so much pain with the SPD! Thing is though hun, if you do carry on doing too much, you could get into trouble with the SPD and its so not worth it! Try try try to rest, or like Jade did, try and get yourself into baking and bake a million cakes! (just dont eat them all! lol Send them to me! ;))
Good luck hun! I know the strength of wanting to nest but you really need to think of how ill it can make you!! :hug: :hug: :hug:
Oh yeh and keep chatting on here! Next thing you know 3 hours have passed! :lol:
And fancy hoovering the ceiling!? :roll: hahahaha that is funny freepie! I do mop my bathroom ceiling though!? :think: hahaha
 

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