To buy or not to buy a dummy?

[sallybee]

DON'T DO IT!!!

when pregnant my opinion was if u have a sucky or colicy or moany baby etc there's no reason not to use a dummy just not all the time and not too old, I really hate it when kids of 2,3 or older can't talk properly cos there's constantly a dummy stuck in thier mouth!

we had a dummy free with a set we bought before lo was born and I said to oh not to give it to her unless it was absolutely necessary as right from the start ruby was a sleepy, quiet, very happy baby, and just didnt need it. so he started giving her a dummy without me knowing when I was asleep and he was watching her without any reason, bloody oh!

Ive managed to get her off the dummy during the day but at the moment she won't go to sleep at night without it which is a massive pain cos like HopesD 10mins later it falls out and she wakes up screaming for it back Oo

if u really think it's necessary use a dummy, just be aware it's not always a solution

Argh my family used to do that and try to give C a dummy even in the day when she was awake, wtf? So annoying and out of order but I would just say "I don't think she wants it"

I think there are pros and cons, sometimes they refuse to let go and come to rely on it all the time but sometimes they just wean themselves off it iykwim. Not a clue why! Xx

 

[Olive]

My lo had a dummy and decided that he wasn't bothered anymore about 4/5 months I think. It was a god send when he was newborn. He was instantly happy when I popped it in his mouth. LOVED it lol. I'll def take them to hospital when we hopefully have another baby. I don't see anything wrong with them xxx


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[lovelylily]

On a slightly different note do any of your Los have comforters? B doesn't seem to want or need anything but I wondered if he should have something?

Lily has a teddy she sleeps with and cuddles if she gets upset. She picked it herself as a comforter but not til she was 6 months plus. I just noticed she'd picked it up to play with more often than her other toys, or had fallen asleep cuddling it or something and then started giving it to her at night. I think with jack I'll start putting something in bed with him around 4 or 5 months when he might actually start to notice it's there and see if he wants it. I already have something in mind for him but he might prefer something else!

 

[Constantstar]

Owen went into special care for a week and they suggested a dummy for soothing and so he knew to suckle. Then it stayed with him. I goinf to attempt this time not to have one for this baby but we shall see. ( I hate them. They look horrid, sound horrid andi loose them often!, and fall out during night causing so many issues! !)
I will try try not to use one we shall see x
mummy to ds 11/7/11
pregnant *team pink* due 12/9/13

 

[CARNAT22]

Double post

 

[CARNAT22]

James has the most girly comforter - it's a pillowcase from this bed set.



He uses it in the day when he sleeps on me and I do take it out with us but he doesn't have it at night or unsupervised.

I say it's girly but my it's actually my macho OH's fave bed linen set

Going back to the dummy issue I think that once a child is old enough to understand what a dummy is for and can be reasoned with then there is no need for them to have it outside / all the time.

xxxxxx

 

[babyem]

We use a dummy, I didn't want to but the night we bought James home from hospital he screamed for 7 hours solid. After 6.5 hours I gave in and cracked open the dummies.

James was a sucky baby and quickly got the hang of his dummy. He uses it a fair bit in the daytime to be honest. He seems to really like the comfort of it? He napes with it. At night-time he falls asleep with it but can go hours (sometimes even overnight) without it.

On a side note I bought a new Gro-bag recently and the blurb they send with the sleeping bag recommends a dummy!! First time I've seen actual proper advocation of a dummy!! The Gro company are now officially saying it helps against SIDS.

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I've read a few things which say recent research suggests a dummy reduces the risk of SIDS, if a baby sleeps with one.

The info the Gro company sent says this

Settling your baby to sleep (day and night) with a dummy can reduce the risk of cot death, even if the dummy falls out whilst your baby is asleep

They do however also say breastfeeding in best and you must establish breastfeeding before using a dummy

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Yep fsid recommend not using a dummy in bf babies for at least a month x

tapatalking x

 

[l_maclean]

We use a dummy, I didn't want to but the night we bought James home from hospital he screamed for 7 hours solid. After 6.5 hours I gave in and cracked open the dummies.

James was a sucky baby and quickly got the hang of his dummy. He uses it a fair bit in the daytime to be honest. He seems to really like the comfort of it? He napes with it. At night-time he falls asleep with it but can go hours (sometimes even overnight) without it.

On a side note I bought a new Gro-bag recently and the blurb they send with the sleeping bag recommends a dummy!! First time I've seen actual proper advocation of a dummy!! The Gro company are now officially saying it helps against SIDS.

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I've read a few things which say recent research suggests a dummy reduces the risk of SIDS, if a baby sleeps with one.

The info the Gro company sent says this

Settling your baby to sleep (day and night) with a dummy can reduce the risk of cot death, even if the dummy falls out whilst your baby is asleep

They do however also say breastfeeding in best and you must establish breastfeeding before using a dummy

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Yep fsid recommend not using a dummy in bf babies for at least a month x

tapatalking x

But be aware that the American version of the advice is from birth, as nipple confusion is a very rare occurrence.


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[Nicnax]

I had an interesting conversation with my gp about dummies, when Molly had colic- she recommended one, and I said I wad anti-dummy. She simply said, to view it as medicine (as sucking my finger seemed to calm her down when she had a colony episode), pointing out that I wouldn't deny her other medicine if she was poorly. I went and bought one straight away, although we didn't actually end up using it.

I have also seen mention of dummies reducing the risk of cot death- health visitor said it was to do with them sleeping lightly.

 

[littlemonkey]

I'm hoping to get rid of them all together as my niece and nephew (2.5 and 9 months) constantly have one in and it looks awful, they even speak with them in and cry if its taken away

Urgh! That's what I hate about them, kids that are obviously too old for them with them in! I've seen kids in uniforms round our way with them in!

Is 9 months too old for a dummy though?

(I know you mention kiddies in uniform which is shocking but I just wondered what age you think the cut off point is?)

I am going to try and get rid of James' soon but he really does love it. It's currently another toy as he is just figuring out how to take it out, put it back in and even give it to me and Daddy so we're going to leave it for a little while longer.

Two of my nephews never took to a dummy, two have been weaned off dummy and one still has a dummy. He is two but my sister is having another baby in September so she has decided not to wean him from his dummy until a bit later as she doesn't want him to get jealous of new baby if he has to have a dummy.

Oddly the nephew that had his dummy the longest is actually the brightest, most grown-up [for his age] and the one you would least expect to have a dummy. He was over 3 when he gave it to santa. Again a new baby had been thrown into the mix though so his parents decided to let him keep it for nap times as to not make him feel pushed out as their other baby also had a dummy.

Sorry, I've rambled! Just wanted to say there are sometimes reasons for toddlers have dummies and it's not pure laziness.

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Personally I think once baby has teeth the dummy should go. But that's just my opinion.

I dunno if the kids in uniform are from pre school or what, but there is one over the road who still has a dummy!

Like I said tho, I am a total snob about dummies and I will admit that! Having had little experience of a screaming baby until my own, I had always associated it with lazy parenting or just trying to shut the baby up. But like so many things since having my son, my opinion is changing!