TMI but need some advice!!

Discussion in 'Trying to Conceive' started by Babybushie28, Jan 22, 2012.

  1. Babybushie28

    Babybushie28 Well-Known Member

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    Hi ladies,

    This thread is tmi so I apologise in advance!

    My oh is great, he's my best mate and I love him to bits! When have a great sex life when we get going but sometimes the start can be a bit dull, I've tried doing new things, being really spontaneous and seducing him which he loves (of course), but when he's getting things started hes very slow and i get bored so I have to move things along by sorting him out, I've talked to him about it but he takes it really personal so gets annoyed with me and then the moment has gone.

    Last nite started the same but then he stopped halfway through the beginning & he said it was 'going on too long' and moved to other side of the sofa, I stormed into the bedroom and he followed asking what's wrong etc, I told him I felt rejected blah blah and he said he though I wasn't in the mood, end if Convo cause I just couldn't be bothered afterwards.

    What's annoying me is that I'm about to OV in the next few days so want to dtd as much as poss but Im annoyed at him, I've talked to him before about 'changing things up a bit' and he'll do it a bit and then stop and say 'there you go', If I don't do anything then it'll be dull, and I don't wanna dtd just cause we have to OV if I'm not feeling it, if that makes sense???

    Don't get me wrong he does 'get me where I need to go' but he needs a big help starting off, has anyone else experienced this or have any advice to what to say to him?

    Thanks girls, sorry for the looooong thread!!!

    BB xxxxx
     
  2. leesey

    leesey Well-Known Member

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    I think this can be quite common when ttc, he's possibly feeling a bit under pressure and when he gets near to 'finishing' he remembers he's making a baby and freaks out. I think maybe talking less about his inadequacies in getting finished, and seeing if he has any worries about ttc and having a baby. He maybe has some concerns, or isn't sure how to handle the whole thing.

    Alternatively, why not give him a bit of an ego boost and amp up the volume so he thinks he's definitely doing the trick (even if he isn't at that particular moment) - I'm not saying fake it or anything, just exaggerate a bit perhaps! xx
     
  3. itisbabytime

    itisbabytime Well-Known Member

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    my hubby definately feels the pressure to "deliver the goods" when i get a positive opk. its totally normal. as long as he isnt getting to the point where he cant maintain a boner or cant ejaculate, its cool. x
     
  4. Babybushie28

    Babybushie28 Well-Known Member

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    Thanks girls,

    Had a chat with him and I'd said something to annoy him earlier that day and he was in a strop!! Then we just talked about it and he said its nowt to do with (thank god) just needs some inspiration and appreciation for him!!

    So we dtd (and i boosted his ego lol )and I had lots of ewcm . . Tmi . . so hopefully we caught it!

    Xxxx
     

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