this is really frustrating lol

[miss-gaby]

ok so this is 1st ttc cycle....

i'm officially late, with no sign of af what so ever. Temps still high-ish. Do you maybe think this is just my cycle adjusting after bcp which i stopped 14th october? or could i actually possibly be pg?

I know i'm only like 3 days late, but this is getting frustrating (as i'm sure most of you know) and i've had a couple of bfn so far.

Just out of curiosity how long was it after ur af was due that you got your bfp?

I wouldnt particularly say i'd been stressed out or anything like that which could have delayed af. Also usually about 4 days before af is due i am usually layed up in bed with painful cramps - of which i've had none at all

What do you all think? any opinions? i'm lost now

Gabs

 

[KJ]

Hi miss Gaby,
It's difficult to say really. I came off the pill at the end of August and my first two cycles were both 42 days! I'm still only on cycle 3!. A lot of people have quite long cycles when they come off the pill, so it's a case of wait and see I'm afraid.
Having said that, you could be very fertile when you come off the pill, so if you're getting symptoms then it's a good sign!
K.xx

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

I agree that trhe pill can mess up your cycles, but take it from someone whos been trying for over a year - start as you mean to go on now and just be patient with your body, if you start getting frustrated and annoyed now, then it will just get worse each month. Try and tell yourself it will happen when your body is ready and not before and relax into it.

Hope that helps xxx

 

[Becs]

Hi Gaby,

I feel the same way. I know it's the first month but it's kind of scary. I've been temping, using opks, charting timing Bd'ing quite well, taking Magic Meds, legs up in the air etc.... It's quite a sudden change from how we were so I guess hopes are high in the first month. I've also discovered I have a 35/36 day cycle so it's a long time between each fertile phase . I'm not due until Thursday but temps are dropping and I have zero symptoms. So although I'm not even late yet I feel quite disheartened . I'm thinking of all the positives like being able to enjoy a drink over Christmas but I know my husband and he's going to really struggle with this if it takes a long time. I O'd on day 21 this month and he had pretty much exhasted his desire to try by then. My worry is keeping him interested at the right time.

Hey ho, I'm sure well settle into it in time.

B

P.S - any opinions on my chart would be welcome

 

[chellieboo]

Hate to say it Becs but that temp drop doesn't look too promising. fingers crossed for you.

 

[Becs]

Doesn't does it!

 

[KJ]

Hi Becs,
coming from someone who has long cycles, I would say this; if you're using OPKs and you have a long cycle then just relax on the BDing from days 1 to 20 and just do it when he wants to (your OPKs will prove you havnen't OV'd). Then as you approach the OV period (for me it's somewhere between days 22-30!) use the every other day approach but don't mention OPKs to the OH, it'll stress him out!!
I know how crap it is waiting for the next fertile phase, my cycles are soooo long it's almost 2 months between ones for me.
Keep your spirits up!!
K.xxx

 

[Becs]

Thanks KJ - very sound advice! I think I'm going to try to forget we are trying for a baby for a couple of weeks and just enjoy the festive season. Sorry to hear that you have even longer cycles, you sound very patient, I shall take a leaf out of your book

Good luck and baby dust
Becs

 

[KJ]

I keep saying that I'll relax and stop thinking about it, but I've discovered that for a woman this is absolutely impossible!! Men just don't understand but for a woman, as soon as you know you're not on contraception anymore, it's all you can think about! That's why I want to hurry up and get preggers cause then I can actually get some work done!! Just coming up to my first fertile day tomorrow, woohoo!!!
xxx

 

[Becs]

I know what you mean - work has really suffered this last week on my two week wait. Hope it's not this bad every month, though can't see why it would be any easier the longer you try.

Happy Bd'ing. Good luck for this month!!

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

It doesnt get easier is the answer to that one!

Its all about how you approach each TWW mentally and emotionally, easier said then done but I try really hard to keep sane each month and not divert to tantrums when my AF arrives!

I am becoming obsessed however, and getting to the point where I view sex with my OH as a means to an end and not making love anymore - this is bad I know but i CANT help it!!!!!!!!

Trying to stay positive, trying really hard

 

[PyscoFalcon]

People telling you to relax and calm down don't help any either lol. It's MUCH easier said than done.


Hubby keeps plucking my grey hairs telling me all the stress won't help (like him pointing out I have grey hairs won't!)