the system sucks

[Rowesb]

... I know I haven't posted too much, but am having trouble keeping up with u lot

Bit of an update with me (please bare with this it has got rather long): managed to plan lots to keep me busy as I hit the 11 week mark last Thursday, which was lovely, Friday all day I had streching pains, like pins and needles and a bit tickley annoying and a little bit freaky at first but got used to them, nothing all day sat and then on Sunday we went over to my grans for the day. we took the dog out for a wander, lovely as it had snowed but not too much so the scenery was pretty. on the way back I got this really sharp pain in my pelvis and looked as though I was about to pass out, it seemed to last for ages too... completely different to any other 'normal' pains I have had. Got abandoned where we were so that they could go and get the car for me and rested up the rest of the afternoon. Got home, had bath and such still with niggles... no spotting though...

Decided to phone my MW yesterday mornign for a bit of advice and reassurance, left a message and am still waiting for a call back (really not impressed as she knows how anxious I get and freaked by the littlest thing)
mid afternoon still waiting, know I'm unlikely to get into see the GP but still think that EPU wouldn't help me out that much as not spotting and not in uniform, so phone the antenatal clinic to speak with the lead MW there as DH knows her... told to continue to rest up, to head down to EPU to get checked out and reassured as 10 days was too long to wait for dating scan.

So arrive at EPU, the most reassuring person there was the receptionist, seen by the SHO who examined me and was told that she couldn't see any clinical reason for my worry and go home and wait it out... had been sat at home all day too scared to move, so I asked how long was I to do that for and that I really needed to leave with some sort of reassurance. She was still unable/refusing to scan me due to resources (earliest would have had one was friday anyway), so she tried phoning the antenatal clinic at the wrong hospital (they obviously didn't read my hand held notes when they took them off me as it is written all over which hospital I'm booked into) to see if they could rebook my scan for any sooner. SHe couldn't get in touch with them anyway, sooo we have ended up chasing it this morning and my dating scan has been bought forward to tomorrow morning, with instructions to rest up, fortunately work have been really understanding, but I would rather be there and pottering (sounds mad) not that i guess I would.

It is really winding me up that the services are crap with mc, before during and after... I am not asking for reassurance just because I am scared, I had pains which I don't feel were normal, hence why I am asking for the units help rather than taking myself off for a private scan (which I would do), I know that 3 mc's are crap, but at least by that point (I hear) the monitoring and causes are considered, but I have absoluely no idea what caused my one...

Mamafy can I borrow ur bat please?

 

[titch]

ahhh hun, You must be so worried. I totally understand, I was beside myself with worry before my scan and I didnt have and pains or bleeding to cause it so I can only imagine how youre feeling.

If you havent bled thats a good sign though?

Hope your scan goes well tomorrow, its so bad that you have to battle through the system yourself, I always worry about people who dont have the confidence/knowledge to do it for themselves, its just not fair.

Let us know how the scan goes tomorrow and think lots of positive thought

 

[Rowesb]

that's why I am complaining about the care I got with the mc, am expecting a response this week (well last friday) and all this will be going back in my response to them...
I know a lot of it is to do with the way the system is set up, but that is no excuse...

 

[titch]

Good for you for complaining, I wish more people would. I work for the NHS and people complain to me about how long they've had to wait and I apologise and give them a complaint leaflet, I preactically beg tham to complain and in 5 years Ive heard of 2 actual complaints. We're desparately short staffed but until people complain the people who manage the money dont think theres a problem! Its even more important if its an individual's professionalism or competence that is under question, I worked with a very worrying team, member and it took ageeessss for someone to complain and my team leader didnt want to do anything about it until then.

for you!

 

[Rowesb]

same here Tiny, the services are shocking, but they have taken away our funding for staff and resources and somehow expect us to remain registered on the NMC...

 

[becks20]

I hope your scan tomorrow goes well! I understand how you feel with them not wanting to help. No one at any hospital seems to want to help me at the moment. let us no how it goes x

 

[Mervs Mum]

Unfortunately, I think they see us all as just another paranoid pregnant woman

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

I totally understand you, Im sorry that you didnt get much help from them - will be thinking of you tomorrow, what time is your scan? All the best

 

[Toonlass]

I hope your scan goes well hun, i'm sorry you were tret so badly xx

 

[titch]

Good luck today! x

 

[Rowesb]

about to leave now, think am more scared than when I went for the scan to confirm the mc, knew it was coming then, not sure what to expect today...
thanks ladies, and u are so right MM

 

[*Hope*]

HOW DID IT GO??? x x x

 

[Rowesb]

update in the picture gallery!!

am still here with bells on