The bottom fell out of my pelvic floor!

Seriously, its getting beyond a joke now If this post contains TMI on weeing I apologies in advance

I used to always be ok with the old bladder. It worked, I could hold it and unless I did a huge sneeze with a full bladder nothing would leak out

But now... now I need to pee often, can't hold on and if I try I am in agony and also I tend to leak at the slightest thing. I cough gently, walk up the stairs, you name it, I wee a bit

I've been wearing small pads for a while now so don't worry in that sense. My main problem is even when I try to do the old pelvic exercises mid wee I fail miserably. I just can't stop once I have started. I try, blimey I try but I can't stop. I practise when not weeing but nothing seems to be working anymore.

Anyone got any tips? Anything? I don't want it to get worse as time goes on as its not going to make for much fun