Swelling on the baby's neck and excess fluid in my womb

[Sarah1989]

Hey need some advice and help off mommys that may now something about this. I had my first scan last Friday and afraid it wasn't good news. The sonographer did not look happy when scanning me, and informed me that the baby had a swollen neck ( anything above 3mm is classed as high risk, and my baby was measuring 4mm) also she explained I had excess fluid in my womb which was also a marker for chromosome abnormalities. I now have to go have a cvs scan on Thursday where they test the placenta. I am having to wait a week and it truely is killing me and my partner. I have a very healthy 3 year old little girl, so devastated that this is happening to us the midwifes were to unable to give us any statistics, so we are preparing ourselves for the worst, but would love to hear if anyone else has been thru this and has some positive outcomes please help xxx

 

[Toria111]

Hi Sarah, I haven't got any advice for you, but might be worth re posting in pregnancy chat as there are a few others who are going through similar. Hope all goes well on Thursday.

 

[diane]

Hi I didn't have excess swelling but I did have a 1:22 risk of chromosome abnormalities and had an amnio. Everything was fine with my baby, if you need any advice about the procedure or just to vent you can pm me xxx

 

[Sarah1989]

Thanks Diane, I can't have the amnio as I'm only 12 weeks, and it's 16+ for that procedure. I think the cvs is the same sort of thing but with the placenta instead of the fluid. I'm so scared, because I have more then one of the "markers" my first little girl was so healthy so it's really took the wind out of me and my husband as we were really not expecting it . I just really wanted and needed to hear other mommys that have been thru this and the outcome come out positive as the midwifes really didn't give me any hope, percentages or statistics xxx

 

[Sarah1989]

Hi Sarah, I haven't got any advice for you, but might be worth re posting in pregnancy chat as there are a few others who are going through similar. Hope all goes well on Thursday.

I don't really now how to work things on here so haven't got a clue to repost in any other forums lol xx

 

[diane]

I know the feeling, it really does take the wind out of you

Who are you having the cvs and detailed scan with? Is it the fetal Medicine unit? There should be a specialist midwife in that area who will be able to talk things through with you and what everything means.

It is such a horrible thing to go through, I really hope all is ok. As I said, my risk was pretty high at 1:22 but my daughter doesn't have any chromosome issues. When pregnant I researched lots and lots and found lots of positive stories so really hope it's the same for you!

 

[Sarah1989]

Yes fetal medicine unit. My bloods have come back as a 1 in 5 chance of a chromosomal abnormality. so with the swelling measurement and the blood result it is not looking good x

 

[Toria111]

I'm not so good either with all the technical stuff either sorry-/ maybe just start new thread when you get a chance.

 

[diane]

Hi Hun sorry about the result but try to stay positive and think there is still an 80% chance all is ok

Again I know of lots of women with these odds and everything fine. Are you having a scan on Thursday as well as the cvs?

 

[Sarah1989]

Yes detailed scan on Thursday too. Very nervous and scared now x

 

[diane]

Hopefully the detailed scan will give some answers and the consultants will be able to answer some questions too... I know they look for things like nasal bone prescene and femur length and check the heart too.

Stay strong Hun and let us know how it goes xxxxx

 

[Sarah1989]

I will do hun. Thnx so much for chatting think I need to start thinking of the worst tho co everything added together isn't lookingn very good now. I won't find out the results to Monday but will let you know , xxx

 

[diane]

I understand that Hun. When I got told my high risk I almost shut off the fact that I was pregnant. I just had to prepare for the worst, so I know how you feel xxx

I'm always around on here lol so anytime u need a chat just let me know x

 

[Sarah1989]

I feel exactly the same! Iv been walking round like a zombie. Feel numb and useless it's hard because I look at my little girl who is 3 and so healthy and it kills me. X

 

[diane]

Been thinking bout you a lot Hun good luck tomorrow xxx

 

[Sarah1989]

Hey hun, more bad news I'm affraid, went for a private scan today and althought the heart, brain and other organs where perfect they could not see the nasal bone so unfortunately we have sort of come to terms that the baby is more likely to be Down syndrome will still let you know after tomoro. Thnk you for talking to me, it has been lovely x

 

[linxminx21]

Hey hun, more bad news I'm affraid, went for a private scan today and althought the heart, brain and other organs where perfect they could not see the nasal bone so unfortunately we have sort of come to terms that the baby is more likely to be Down syndrome will still let you know after tomoro. Thnk you for talking to me, it has been lovely x

As much as im sure your worried, upset, confused ect... a baby is a miracle. Their are a few ladys on here who have beautiful babies with ds. God wouldnt give you something you couldnt deal with. Iv never personally been trhough this but big hugs hun x x

 

[diane]

Big hugs hun, remember nothing is set in stone and private scans aren't [usually] as experienced as fetal medicine sonographers.

Good luck tomorrow, and I'm sure your consultant will be able to answer all the millions of questions you have at the mo and put you in touch with people and support groups that can help you decide whats right for you as a family xxx

 

[diane]

Thinking of you today xxx

 

[babysunshine]

hi how did it go? Hope ur ok?