ty for the replies
one of the health visitors gave me some info on the 'solihul method' which seems quite a lot like controlled crying, i tried it once the day after but lo wont be comforted by patting/shushing or anything like that and ended up just getting hysterical. i really don't think its for us
lo is in her own room, moved her out about 4/5 weeks ago thinking that maybe she was waking because the crib was too small, i'm sleeping on her floor though as she's still young and wakes so often. she's bf so i do pretty much all the nights, he does get up early in the morning to take her downstairs so i can have a sleep though
GF91 that sounds familiar, i find myself getting a bit resentful when i hear/read people saying "im so shattered my lo wakes 2/3 times a night still" 2/3 times would be amazing ! was your lo able to self settle before you tried the nursery recommendation? my lo seems to just stay awake/get really worked up if i leave her to it so i'm not sure she'd eventually sleep if i tried that
yup we've got noise/light etc in the day and at bedtime take her upstairs, washed, nappy change, feed in her bedroom- was trying to do story as well but she's so shattered all the time she just gets worked up and i end up leaving it out.
health visitor has said hopefully weaning will help, started that now but i'm not convinced
after another awful evening/night i eventually put her in my bed (or nest as its on the floor!) and she slept from 1.45-5.45am which makes me think it's not anything actually keeping her awake physically? i really don't want to co sleep as i'd like to go back to my room and off the floor at some point and i dont think it's doing my relationship any favours but i don't know what else i can do if she refuses to settle
we're supposed to be at swimming class this morning but i've bailed, im' sure isolating myself probably wont be helpful but i can't face seeing anyone