Statistics?

[ZoeM]

Hi

Sorry to bring the subject up on this message board, but what is the probability of having a miscarriage before 12 weeks?

People keep telling me not to get too excited before 12 weeks Even my hubbie says the same thing!!

Consequently I woke up with pain in my lower stomach and managed to worry myself into thinking I was having the beginnings of a miscarriage for most of the night!!

Of course, I wasn't and everything is as it should be - I just had throbbing pains in my side and period like pains.

Has anyone else had bad guts since they've been pregnant? I also seem to be very bloated at the moment. I'm seven weeks preg.

Zo

 

[gingerpig]

To be fair it's really hard to say, so much depends on your age, state of health, history of previous miscarriages if more than one) etc. I must admit although I was really excited, and we did tell everyone, I didn't take it for granted that I would still be pregnant. That's what I told people too. I decided during the first trimester that I was just going to trust baby to do what was best for it - it was a bit scary at 7 - 8 weeks when I had a lot of growing pains which I thought might be cramping.

I think the thing is people get very protective, and they're trying to protect you from future sadness if you did miscarry. I wasn't really sure that worked for me though, if I had had a miscarriage I felt that if people knew, it would somehow be nicer for me as I could explain why I was miserable. But it's different for everyone.

 

[andreag]

I was deparate for this info to but there are so many conflicting versions I don't know what to believe. I've read 1 in 3 (this was the worst), but this seemed to include very early losses (ie before a positive result) but didn't say how many of these their were. There is also nothing I could find to say if and how much the risk drops as you approach 12 weeks. I am paranoid I could have had a 'no pain' miscarriage. I think the worry is normal but I'm trying to keep it in perspective - chances are still that everything is fine, whatever the actual figures. Worrying about it if anything can only be bad for the baby. I am trying the assume everything is fine, but not get too excited until I've had the scan or heard a heartbeat.

Re the bloating, I have had this really badly. I could hardly eat at the weekend with trapped wind. It is listed in my book as one of the 1st tri symtoms, and it is the worst one I've had - really horrible and makes my clothes so uncomfortable.
Enough moaning from me - roll on the "blooming" stage!!

All the best
andrea

 

[lmarszall]

Hiya,

The misscarriage association has some very useful leaflets on early pregnancy and loss.

I found them very helpful as i lost a baby in July at 7 week.

I have had loads of pains with this pregnancy some have even had me doubled over. But as you can see all is well so i have no idea what it was.

I'm sure everything is fine.
Most people experience some sort of pains

Lau
xx

 

[Happybunny]

I read it was somewhere like 1/4 pg ended in mc. Apparently the risk does drop once a heartbeat is established, but still is more precarious up to 12 weeks than after.

Best thing is to assume the best! Worrying about what might happen is futile.

When to tell people is a highly personal thing.

In my first pg I didn't tell anyone apart from parents and hubby. I felt soo terribly lonely when I mc. I wanted people to talk to me about it because otherwise I felt has though it had never had happened and there was never a baby. I wanted other people to reassure me that it was ok and I would go on to have another pregnancy.

I made a decision that if I got pg again, I would tell my friends. They are like my family and I would hope that they would comfort me and likewise feel that they could come to me if they had such misfortune. So last Friday we told all our friends when we went out for a christmas meal. I am really glad I did and I certainly wont feel silly if the worse happens.