Sole breastfeeders - help please

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  1. Ttc1234

    Ttc1234 Well-Known Member

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    My baby boy is only 2 days old and he is attaching really well and suckling. I am fully breast feeding with no bottles and no dummies.
    Yesterday he fed at the longest 9 hours pretty much solid and I got 6 hours sleep from him after (excellent I know). Today however since 930am he has fed almost continuously (it's now 7pm so 1o hours). I think he's finished put him down and within minutes he's crying again. My husband can settle him for about twenty mins max then we have to feed him again. I've just sat all day feeding and I'm worried the same happens overnight. I'm knackered.
    Any other mums solely breastfeeding? Is this normal? My milk isn't in yet as my boobs don't feel engorged so I'm hoping it gets easier in the next few days when the milk is in.

    Any help appreciated

    Thanks x
     
  2. El1en

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    Bless you the first few days are so hard. Your baby is feeding so much in order to bring your milk in but he will stil be getting some.

    Do you have a day 3 midwife check? If you're worried speak to her but it may be that you need to try and battle through for a couple more days.

    Get oh to take baby for a while so you can have a break, either just walking round the house you're happy for a stroll outside.

    It does get easier! You're doing great
     
  3. Sprout

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    Yes that sounds normal - though exhausting! Sounds like he's making sure you'll have plenty of milk when it comes in, which should be in the next day or two. Well done and keep going :)
     
  4. Ttc1234

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    Thanks for your replies. I'm such an emotional wreck today and so tired. I will keep going - it's good to get reassurance. What are your takes on dummies? And cosleeping? I don't want to give in and give him a dummy yet!!xx
     
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    I'm still trying to avoid dummy if I can, I dread him being reliant on one and then forgetting to take it somewhere or something like that.

    My baby will only sleep in our bed, I absolutely love having him.with us but I'm.so aware of the dangers that I have broken sleep. I also set myself up in way that I can't roll (arched arm etc) but end up aching and hanging off the bed! I now aim to skip the moses basket because it's just not working and go straight to the cot at 6 months. Also because feeding is now well established I don't even have to get out of bed or turn the light on, I just feed him in bed.

    Sounds like your doing really well. Get a nice bath if you get a break from.feeding. I don't think I really slept.for the first week when I had my baby, I was surviving on short naps if that but it.got easier xx
     
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    Definitely normal. Phoenix feeds for about an hour at a time in the day and if I put her down or give her to the kids to hold 9 times out of 10 she starts routing again and crying. If I sit and hold her she'll sleep for an hour though lol
    I'm currently in bed feeding her been feeding solidly since around midnight lol. She tends to feed til around 3am then sleep through til 5 or 6.
    We cosleep exclusively too, but I did with my daughter from day one so no concerns here x
    Phoenix is 4 days old (5 days at 4.33pm on Sunday lol)
     
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    I really didn't want to co sleep, my midwife kept asking me to try it as she could see I was knackered. I did after a few weeks and unfortunately I still an now at 14months! I never managed to get her into a cot. Will try again next week.

    I didn't introduce a dummy until 5weeks, my baby had awful colic but i was trying to follow the proper advice. Recently two of my friends have had babies and exclusively bf and introduced a dummy straight away and had no problems at all so I know if in have another baby I will to
     
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    Snap ... My baby boy is 5 days old today and seems to want to feed all night and sleep during the day.

    The main problem I'm having is that he won't settle at all in his Moses basket only on Mummy or Daddy.

    I'm hoping he'll settle in some sort of routine soon as I'm pretty darn.knackered xx
     
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    All sounds perfectly normal Hun - baby is trying to get your supply up enough to satisfy them. My milk came in on day 3 and I made sure I didn't leave my bed and said no visitors so I could just feed all day.
    It really helped and I didn't get the baby blues and I got such a good supply from doing it.
    You're doing fab so keep going! X


     
  10. Ttc1234

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    Thanks everyone. He didn't feed nearly as much overnight. I got the odd hour of broken sleep. Yes we co-slept whilst feeding then he went in his basket then we co-slept to feed again. My nipples are quite sore today but I'm really hoping my milk is through now and he won't feed for as lengthy spells. We will see. I'm so glad it's morning even though I'm knackered! We will keep going - i just have to look at my son and realise it's all worth while xx
     
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    I'm really tired... she didn't fall asleep til 4.30am and the last hour of that she was frantic (not crying but latching and unlatching constantly). Finally realised she was a bit cold!! And put a babygrow on her and she fed and fell asleep. And then slept through til about 8 or 9am, woke, fed, had a nappy change, had some nice alert time, and then went back to sleep and slept through til around lunch time so I only got up about 12 today lol, showered and sorted laundry whilst she slept.
    It's been really hot in the bedroom so Thursday night and Friday night she was mostly in just a nappy against me (under the covers) and was plenty warm enough but the temperature must have dropped a bit last night, so babygrow is going on again tonight lol.
     
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    As the others have said it sounds normal. You can tell when your milk comes in because if you look close baby starts making swallowing noises and the poo changes color.
     
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    I think my milk is in today. He is a bit more satisfied, nappies changed colour and my boobs are hard. Its been a better day but he's still feeding lots. My nipples are very sore so wearing a shield which is helping - I'm assuming these don't need sterilised every feed as he is feeding so much? Anyone used them - it does ease the pain a bit.
     
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    Oh my baby is so sensitive to temperature, so tonight I've had to take the babygrow off and she's fallen asleep in her vest and nappy, she was not happy before, funny baby.

    Be careful with Shields they reduce nipple stimulation and can cause more problems with the latch.. Can you see a breastfeeding specialist or support group?
     
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    kellymom.com baby's second night explains why this happens with all breastfed babies.
     
  16. Elfs Mummy

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    Ttc is try not to use a shield I know how sore it is but it can be hard to wean them off one. I'd get some lanolin and use that I remember crying through feeds
    With my daughter as it was so painful but six weeks in my nipples had toughened up. This time I'm not having any issues xx


     
  17. ruby2015

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    Poor you! I remember those weeks well- so so painful! Hang in there. I used a shield every now and then (once or twice a day to give my nipples a break) in desperation and it didn't have an adverse effect but I agree you shouldn't use them regularly. Well done though- you're going brilliantly and it gets easier!
     
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    Today my nipples are better - I think he's not sucking as hard?! Maybe milks coming easier. Not had to use shield since last night and I will be cautious with their use. Thanks for all your help. I don't feel so alone as I really didn't know what to expect/ how hard breastfeeding would be. We are keeping on going :)xx
     
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    Glad it's better TTC. Mine were really sore until day 4 and I know what I'm doing lol. They've been a lot better the last couple of days though.

    Phoenix now suckles constantly from midnight to around half 4 lol. didn't matter whether she was in a vest & babygrow or just a vest, she just would not nod off, exhausting lol because i'm still waking up around 7/8am.

    But on the flip side she sleeps well from 4.30 through to 9/10 (or later if I leave her but I've been waking her then to change & feed her) but it's meant i've been able to get up & shower, get breakfast ready, get all her nappy change stuff ready etc before she wakes and starts crying lol.
     
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    We just went to the shops. Disaster! Had to use mothercare feeding room. Then we went to supermarket and I had to sit in the toilet feed whilst hubby got shopping. We are home now and I can laugh about it but omg he's feeding all the time/just won't settle. Going to try a sling - hopefully I can feed with him in it/walking around. Then if that fails the dreaded dummy as I can't continue as I am. On the plus side he's feeding really well (too well lol) and nipples much better today x
     

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