So upset after hospital visit and need a hug :(

[Mik]

It was all so rushed and institutional and I have come home feeling really miserable about it all. He is now breach again and measuring 3 weeks ahead except his head which is 4 weeks ahead (last growth scan he was 2 weeks ahead). The mw did a urine dip and BP check but didn't speak to me apart from to call my name didn't give me any indication of whether they were ok or not and I had to check my notes to find out. She then came back in to say the dr didn't need to see me and I could go. Well I said since I had been told I had diabetes noone had explained anything to me and I needed to speak to him.
Dr came in and went through a few things but told me he wouldn't say too much as he was transferring me to the diabetes team that I am seeing Monday. Neither he or the midwife asked how I was if there was anything worrying me and to be honest there are a few things but I felt so rushed and like a number rather than a person that I didn't say anything cos I was worried I would start crying.
I am home now worried about how much he has grown in 5 weeks, no clearer really on what to expect with the diabetes or the birth and missing my hubby who won't be home until feb 13th and I so need a hug Sorry to moan again I just really feel let down and alone

 

[Tinkerbellbaby]

Thats awful, Im sure you are upset. Im sorry that I dont really know anything to tell you about the situation but just dont get stressed out. That cant be good for your baby. The midwives probably just forget the way mothers to be are feeling and she could have been having abad day-not that im justifying what the dr and midwofe did. They should have explained to you everything which you wanted to know. They should know your baby is the most important thing in your life and that you need to know whats going on.

Please dont let this upset you, Im sure the team on Monday will help you loads and give you all the ansers you need

sorry i couldnt be more help

xxx

 

[emman24]

sounds like you had a horrible time

 

[Melly+2]

 

[indie78]

sorry you had a bad experience
have you seen a diabetic nurse yet, are you on insulin?
just wondering as i have just been diagnosed. already started on insulin as my sugars remain high . if youre sugars are high they may start you on insulin and once they are controlled that might slow babys growth down
when you say he is measuring 3 weeks ahead was that on another growth scan? my fundal measurements were coming out at 6 weeks ahead yet at my growth scan yesterday baby was right size but increase in amnitoic fluid

like you i havent been explained about what impact, if any, being on insulin and having GD will have on the birth etc i am seeing them again on fri and hopefully it will be explained then. Im sure monday will be a better experience for you. write down all your questions and ask them, the doctors are there for you, not vice versa so dont feel like you are a number or an inconvenience. get all your questions answered as it will make you feel better- the wondering about whats going on is horrible

 

[lisaspoon]

 

[pickled_onion]

Hope you get some answers soon, Mik

 

[Jen & Her Men]

hospitals really do my head in with the way they treat us pregnant ladies sometimes. I had exactly the same experience when i was pregnant with James. Just felt like they wanted to rush through my appointment and i was just another number as opposed to an individual who was going through a very new and very different and scary experience for the first time!! I wish the midwives and docs would remember that before being so clinical.

I learnt from that and have been a lot more forthright this time round. It has worked to some extent but its still not the magical experience you hope for!

BIg hugs for you hun. next appointment just make sure you go with your list of questions and get it out so they can see you need answers. Worked for me.

Hope your ok

 

[lisa-marie]

Sending you a huge its not nice being treated like that & especially at a time when your OH isnt around. Hope you get some answers on Monday!

 

[*CLAIREBEAR*]

some hospital staff can be so uncaring! grrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

[Charlotte_faeriemad]

When I saw my MW last I felt like that when I left. I'm glad you stuck to your guns though and asked to see the doctor after you were told he didnt need to see you. Lets hope you get some answers on Monday

 

[Mik]

Thanks guys
Indie gonna do a seperate thread to answer your questions cos I have some for you too it is nice to know someone else is going through a similar thing although of course I would rather you weren't going through it (Hope you understand what I mean)