Hi, hope you and your LO's are all okay Had a midwife appt today (my 2nd one) and she comes out with, by the way you know how you had mental health problems, it means i have to refer to social services, 'had' being the operative word i was a mixed up kid who has been stable for a long time. Now my past is going to haunt me 5 years later and affect my baby, i know social services arn't all bad, i work alongside them every day at work. We have a lot of children on the at risk register at work. They have parents who are drug addicts, some of them are neglected and abused. Somehow i'm being put into that, the stigma... Another thing for goodness sake i spend all day every day looking after other peoples children, supervising at that. But there's doubt i'm capable of caring for my own child because i self harmed when i was 15!! Sorry for the massive rant it's just upset me. I get that i just have to be 'assesed' and prove i'm capable but i don't feel as though i should have to. Does that make sense? My OH's family still don't seem to be coming to terms with the fact i'm pregnant, well is say his family, it's the mother in law. She keeps telling us we're wasting our lives, she saw our scan photo and from what i gather went on a rant about money & how she'd have to tell her mum now... she's known since before xmas. I thought she might have got her head around it by now, this baby is coming whether she's happy or not. So she told her mum who also agreed that we were wasting our lives and we were to young. I get that yes we're not married and we don't own a house. But we both work in full time pretty well paid jobs, we rent a house, we've been together for 3 years and we're 20-21!!... we're hardly in the worst situation are we?! Surely being young and not married doesnt meant we will fail at being parents?! My family have been amazing they're all so supportive. They understand it's tough because i don't have a mum to turn to which i think most pregnant women do but they're being brilliant yes they were shocked and a little bit worried but after us explaining we're fine and seeing the scan picture. They melted and they're over the moon, just wish my OH's family could support him & us. Has anybody elses family reacted badly? Sorry again for the massive rant, you're all so understanding and have helped me out so much. Kinda need a bit of reassurance (again i know) you'll be glad to see the back of me on sat when i move to tri 2!!