Scared young Mum to be

[DaniNic]

Hi

I am Dani and 18.

Me and my boyfriend, also 18, have just found out we are having our first baby. We are both so scared as it wasn't planned at all. I'm 7 weeks along.

We both still live at home and not told our folks yet. I'm really scared at the reaction of mine, as they know about the boyfriend but not that we have slept together.

I've got my first midwife appointment in 2 weeks and I'm terrified as I don't know what to ask or what will happen.

Any help or advice please as I am starting to panic about it all!!

Dani

 

[Lollypop79]

The appointment for the midwife will be about an hour and it will mainly be her asking you a lot of questions. Filling out paperwork etc. She will probably take some blood and test your urine an blood pressure. Bloods are just to make sure your levels are ok. So your not anemic etc. The urine is to check there’s no infections etc. All very standard stuff but can be overwhelming first time. If your boyfriend can go with you that will help calm your nerves.
As for your parents. I’m so sorry your going through this. Regardless of you being pregnant they will want to know. As they love you. It will be tough and they may be shocked but it would be worse if you leave it and worry. If you don’t know how to say it write a letter and ask them to read it with you either there or waiting in another room. Anything wise just ask xx

 

[Princess81]

Lollypop has put it so wonderfully above and I agree with her. Some trusts have specialist midwives for teenage mums, they may have ways of supporting you wiTh telling your parents. A lot of places also have family nurses to help x

 

[PoxiePixie]

I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter a week before my 18th, I wasn't with the dad and was living at the ymca. I told my parents in public but they were surprisingly good. You just have to be prepared for the worst unfortunately. I recommend your boyfriend be with you so you can show you are serious =) x

 

[Donna88]

I agree with what others have said, there is a lot of support these days for teenage parents.

I can imagine telling your parents will be tough but take your boyfriend for support and do it somewhere you feel comfortable, whether that be in public or at home. Be prepared for the worse, but only as a literal worse case situation - as I'm sure they will be more supportive than you think. Good luck, keep us updated on how it goes.

 

[PennyLiz]

Hi

I am Dani and 18.

Me and my boyfriend, also 18, have just found out we are having our first baby. We are both so scared as it wasn't planned at all. I'm 7 weeks along.

We both still live at home and not told our folks yet. I'm really scared at the reaction of mine, as they know about the boyfriend but not that we have slept together.

I've got my first midwife appointment in 2 weeks and I'm terrified as I don't know what to ask or what will happen.

Any help or advice please as I am starting to panic about it all!!

Dani

Hi dani. Congrats on ur new hope ur feeling well. I was pregnant with my first child when I was 17 and I too was very worried about telling my parents. They took it better than what I thought. Ur parents love you and will b there for u the longer u leave 8t the more u will stress over it. Maybe try wait till ur fist scan and leave a scan picture for them too c so u dnt actually have to say anything or b there if ur not ready.
Dnt panic huni being a young mum (I think) it is lovely my son is now 10 and we r very close.
And when people tell u it will ruin it life dnt listen as long as u and ur bf are on board then the rest falls into place.
Yes I had my children young I also have a 7 year old daughter too. But I'm still a qualified chef and wudnt change anything for the world. I had my children and went to college when my daughter went to full time school.
U will b fine worse things in life can happen than starting ur family young. I hope all goes well for u look forward to hearing but how u tell us parents xx

 

[PoxiePixie]

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Hi dani. Congrats on ur new hope ur feeling well. I was pregnant with my first child when I was 17 and I too was very worried about telling my parents. They took it better than what I thought. Ur parents love you and will b there for u the longer u leave 8t the more u will stress over it. Maybe try wait till ur fist scan and leave a scan picture for them too c so u dnt actually have to say anything or b there if ur not ready.
Dnt panic huni being a young mum (I think) it is lovely my son is now 10 and we r very close.
And when people tell u it will ruin it life dnt listen as long as u and ur bf are on board then the rest falls into place.
Yes I had my children young I also have a 7 year old daughter too. But I'm still a qualified chef and wudnt change anything for the world. I had my children and went to college when my daughter went to full time school.
U will b fine worse things in life can happen than starting ur family young. I hope all goes well for u look forward to hearing but how u tell us parents xx[/QUOTE]

I too went to university after having my daughter and got a 2:1 in History. Young mum's are only held down by their own determination. Don't let anyone say you can't do it.

 

[PennyLiz]

Well done you. I definitely agree being a mum doesn't stop u for doing anything you want to do. X