Scared, Excited, Worried...

Discussion in 'Pregnancy Chat' started by VetNicky, Jan 16, 2012.

  1. VetNicky

    VetNicky New Member

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    Hi everyone,
    I know i'm new here but i'm just looking for a little reassurance/advice. I found out last week that I'm pregnant for the first time.
    Since then I've been worrying so much its stopping me sleeping properly. I know its still early days but I'm worrying I'll be a rubbish mum. Worrying if I can give a child everything he/she needs. Worrying how people will react, mainly my boss. I earn quite a bit more than my partner so I'm worrying if we'll manage when i'm on maternity leave. Worrying if I'll be able to and if its safe to carry on working when I'm furthur along. Worrying how the dogs will be with a baby in the house (we have 4).Just worrying about everything. Wish my brain had an off button right now...
    OH keeps saying people from all walks of life and all backgrounds have babies every day and they manage..We will too. I know he's right just wish I could convince myself of that.

    Sorry for rambling on my heads just a bit all over the place at the moment
    x
     
  2. mummygeorgie

    mummygeorgie Well-Known Member

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    ohh let me start by saying CONGRATS!! I think its only natural to worry about everything, after all this is a big thing and it is going to change ur life BUT u will be suprised just how natural most things come to u when u have ur LO. Im sure everyone will be delighted for u and if not then who cares?! Aslong as ur happy then leave the rest of them to it. Im expecting my second and didnt really worry when i was pregnant with my first but wow am i now, its all part of the process i guess, hopefully with time when everyone knows, u've seen ur buba bean for the first time (wich is amazing) then the worries will be overcome with excitement. And ur OH is rite, i was only 17 whe i had my daughter and i cant tell u how many people expected me to 'crash and burn' but proved them rong :) xx
     
  3. littlemuffin

    littlemuffin Well-Known Member

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    I was quite the same, but my DH said to me, look at the billion people in the world. We all got here the same way. To be worried, means that you care, and thats a good thing.
     
  4. Zoeox

    Zoeox Well-Known Member

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    Firstly congratulations :)
    I was exactly the same when I found out. I think its only natural to worry. Unfortunately I'm the sole earner for us as OH was made redundant recently :( I generally worry if the dogs will get jealous or anything, but I guess only time will tell. I was also scared about telling my boss, but there is nothing they can really say to you. x
     
  5. BellaRiven

    BellaRiven Well-Known Member

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    First of all let me start by saying CONGRATULATIONS :dance::dance:

    next i will say that what you are feeling is totally normal, I have had at one point or another the same thoughts running through my head, it's almost like watching my brain on action replay :)

    Everything will be ok, you will be able to manage perfectly fine, it doesn;t matter what your boss says this is YOUR baby not his/hers and they should be happy for you, you should get Maternity pay from work and if you decide to you can go back after your Maternity Leave, You will not be a rubbish mum and your other half is completely correct people do it every day ( these are all teh things I have been telling myself)

    I have found that planning what I will buy and when has helped and then sticking to it as well, you will get lots of stuff given to you, don;t be ashamed to say yes to it, just say thank you :)

    It will be awesome, it will mean adjusting but were human we adapt well :)

    xxx
     
  6. Bee7

    Bee7 Well-Known Member

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    Congratulations :)

    As the other girls have said, it's perfectly natural to feel like this. It's a life changing thing and you're bound to worry, esepcially with your first. Fear of the unknown and all that. Plus raging hormones do nothing to help either! This is my first pregnancy too and for the first 12 weeks i didn't even allow myself to believe it was real.

    Your OH is right. People from all walks of life have babies daily and for some it is much more of a struggle than others. Aside from all the usual 'maternal' worries (how much will labour hurt, will i be a good mum etc) I've had lots of practical worries too. My OH and i weren't in the most solid relationship when we fell pregnant so we've had to work on that. We've had to find somewhere to live and have had huge money worries too. I have no idea how we'll cope when i go onto maternity leave. Luckily i have an amazing family who are helping lots and all we can do is try our best.

    I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry too much. What will be will be and no amount of worrying will help. Try and enjoy your pregnancy and do what you can to prepare. It's all any of us can do really. Good luck hun xxx
     
  7. Em91

    Em91 Well-Known Member

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    Congrats it's normal to feel like that honestly :).
     
  8. mishi

    mishi Well-Known Member

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    Firstly congratulations!

    As everyone else has said its totally normal to worry about it all. I had my daughter 20 years ago. I fell pregnant at 19 and was terrified about how I was going to cope emotionally and financially as a single parent, but I loved every minute of it and my family were brilliant. My daughter is now a happy, well adjusted young woman at University (and we have a brilliant relationship) and I'm back to being a pregnant (albeit thrilled) nervous wreck - despite this time having a wonderful hubby, nice house and us both having good jobs I still worry about how I will cope and will I be a god Mum, can my body go through this again! The list goes on and on......
     
  9. GoldenDragon

    GoldenDragon Well-Known Member

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    Congrats! I think it's normal to feel like that hun, I'm feeling exactly the same right now and my circumstances are different. You're in a better position than me, you'll be a great mummy :hug: x
     

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