frankie247
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I went to see my GP this morning to confirm my pregnancy, as in my previous surgery we had to see DR who then referred to midwife. I went in, all happy and excited, explained that I was worried because I've had two miscarriages previously.
He said: "do you want to keep it?"
Me: of course
He: "are you absolutely sure?"
Me: yes, I'm married, we've been trying to conceive, I've had two miscarriages of course I want the baby.
Him: "hmm"
He asked me for my last period which I told him, he didn't try and work out due date, he did my blood pressure which was normal then said do you smoke? I said No, and he looked at me like I was a complete liar.
He gave me a test and said "go do sample" so I went to the loo, but I was already upset and I just couldn't do it. I'd literally gone to the loo before I walked out my house, I've never been asked to do another sample before at this point. I went in and said, sorry I can't. He said "not at all?" again asking like I was a complete liar. I said "no not at all" he said well you better make an appointment for when you can do a specimen and we'll take it from there. I suppose you could try booking in with a midwife.
I left trying not to cry, maybe I'm being really sensitive but he just seemed really abrasive, and unkind. Fortunately reception let me book in with the midwife and I've appointment at 2 this afternoon. I don't know whether it's worth mentioning? The reception asked me how manta weeks I was, and I had to go by my ticker cos the GP didn't calculate an edd.
I just feel Like I've been made to feel guilty for wanting to keep this baby when I'm already really nervous that I'm going to lose it.
UPDATE: saw the midwife who was absolutely lovely, and shocked at the way the GP spoke to me, said she would have a word. (whether or not she actually will) she booked me in for an early scan but said it will be an internal (eek) took loads of blood but my vein collapsed, she attempted twice again in my other arm but with no luck, so after the early scan I've got to go to the hospital path lab for more blood. All being well my 12 week scan is booked for the 29th December
He said: "do you want to keep it?"
Me: of course
He: "are you absolutely sure?"
Me: yes, I'm married, we've been trying to conceive, I've had two miscarriages of course I want the baby.
Him: "hmm"
He asked me for my last period which I told him, he didn't try and work out due date, he did my blood pressure which was normal then said do you smoke? I said No, and he looked at me like I was a complete liar.
He gave me a test and said "go do sample" so I went to the loo, but I was already upset and I just couldn't do it. I'd literally gone to the loo before I walked out my house, I've never been asked to do another sample before at this point. I went in and said, sorry I can't. He said "not at all?" again asking like I was a complete liar. I said "no not at all" he said well you better make an appointment for when you can do a specimen and we'll take it from there. I suppose you could try booking in with a midwife.
I left trying not to cry, maybe I'm being really sensitive but he just seemed really abrasive, and unkind. Fortunately reception let me book in with the midwife and I've appointment at 2 this afternoon. I don't know whether it's worth mentioning? The reception asked me how manta weeks I was, and I had to go by my ticker cos the GP didn't calculate an edd.
I just feel Like I've been made to feel guilty for wanting to keep this baby when I'm already really nervous that I'm going to lose it.
UPDATE: saw the midwife who was absolutely lovely, and shocked at the way the GP spoke to me, said she would have a word. (whether or not she actually will) she booked me in for an early scan but said it will be an internal (eek) took loads of blood but my vein collapsed, she attempted twice again in my other arm but with no luck, so after the early scan I've got to go to the hospital path lab for more blood. All being well my 12 week scan is booked for the 29th December
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I'm so glad you're able to see the midwife, they're far more sympathetic and reassuring. Good luck with your appointment xx
I would mention it to your Mw this afternoon x
so sory u had to go through that. I had a similar experience with my old gp surgery, the doctors there were just as rude. I have since changed surgeries and have a nice doctor. I don't see why u would have to go back with a urine sample if ur going to see the midwife later. Just look forward to having that appointment 
