Question

[mortallis288]

My girlfriend and I didn't really have sex, I put my penis in her with a condom on and pull it out. I also rubbed around her vianga with it with out a condom on and then i fingered.She hasn't missed her period yet, but we are just worried, this is our first time every doing anything that far. She is having headaches, but she says she always has headaches around her period. She also said she has some vaginal discharge, it looks like cottage cheese supposedly, I mean it has only been 3 weeks, we are just a little worried. She has also been traveling for hte past 3 days, and going into low and high pressure systems, so i am kind of putting the headache thing off

 

[SarahH]

I very much doubt that she is pregnant.... but you do NEED to be careful as this is your second post in 3mths about the same sort of incident

http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... highlight=

Either get your girlfriend to go to the doctor to see about the pill or keep your condom on when 'fooling around'

 

[mortallis288]

i totally agree with you, i used a condom this time, but she refuses to get on birth control until we are married. SO we have decided not to do anything for awhile. we are just waiting on friday.

 

[SarahH]

without butting my nose in.... how old is your girlfriend... maybe if she is still youngish her periods wont have settled into a routine and you are going to have this problem every month.

I say keep condom on or dont get that friendly, unless you are BOTH wanting a baby.

 

[mortallis288]

she is 18, but we are just worried because we were raised to worry. It has seem like forever because we did this a week after her period. So, it just has seemed like forever. Her period should start friday.

 

[Penstraze]

I dont want to sound out of line but it does sound like you are both alittle unsure what is and isnt ok about getting pregnant and get too carried away in the heat of the moment! Perhaps a trip to the family planning clinic would be benefitial to you both, they are very friendly and discrete no one can find out you went there or why! You should be worrying about risk of STI's as well as getting pregnant! Im not sure why your girlfriend doesnt want to go on the pill before your married but it would if you are going to be having sex before you are married then it would be far beter to be on the pill then constantly risking pregnancy! It is alot easier to say you are going to abstain until married then to do it (we've all be young and carried away by hormones at some point!) if you both wish to wait then avoiding very intimate situations and places where the oportunity to become intimate could arise until you are married may help.

 

[Penstraze]

oops double post!

Did forget to say I think she should get the cottage cheese like discharge checked out that doesnt sound healthy!

 

[mortallis288]

ya, she is going too. She says that if she is on the pill it will look bad to her mother. We are from the US and in the US we are from the south which is very very conservative and the us version of this forum does not reply at all. That is why she does not want to be on the pill because it will make her look like a "whore" to her parents. I told her it wouldn't but whatever. The whole STD thing isnt an issue to us. We have been together for a little over a year, and neither one of us has ever did anything with anyone else. We have known each other since birth, and we have been off and on since birth.
But back to the topic at hand, you are right, after that last inncedient you would have thought we would have been a little smarter. At least this time we used a condom? But anyways, we might visit a clinic.

 

[Penstraze]

I understand her concerns about her reputation by going on the pill but surely her reputation would be more damaged if she got pregnant, no one else need know she was on the pill!

 

[SarahH]

ya, she is going too. She says that if she is on the pill it will look bad to her mother. We are from the US and in the US we are from the south which is very very conservative and the us version of this forum does not reply at all. That is why she does not want to be on the pill because it will make her look like a "whore" to her parents. I told her it wouldn't but whatever. The whole STD thing isnt an issue to us. We have been together for a little over a year, and neither one of us has ever did anything with anyone else. We have known each other since birth, and we have been off and on since birth.
But back to the topic at hand, you are right, after that last inncedient you would have thought we would have been a little smarter. At least this time we used a condom? But anyways, we might visit a clinic.

Well, I dont beleive that for a second!! I am currently living in Texas through my husbands work and you just have to watch the TV to see it is not considered like that - practically every third commercial is for some sort of female pill. And if she is 18 - I doubt it would be considered 'whoreish', it would be considered sensible!
In the long run tho, if she is not willing to budge on going on the pill I suggest you get a pack of condoms and keep them in your wallet etc as by the sounds of things you two get 'frisky' quite often - and at 18 I don't blame you!!

 

[mortallis288]

ya i have condoms now, and you better believe it, her parents are very very conserative.

 

[ASD123456]

Hi,

Do her parents even need to know she is going on the pill. Can she not just go and see her doc by herself? I think the condoms are a good option.

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