pregnant and not great time to make decisions

[mama2b1979]

I'm due in February and is my 1st pregnancy.
I met the ftb whilst travelling 3 years ago and we've moved back to the uk where we both found it difficult to get back to the humdrum of life and not travelling anymore.
we made a joint decision to move in together and moving towards creating a family and marriage.
I was on the depo injection whilst travelling and came off it with the intention and he was aware of this obviously of this and things were looking great. I had complications coming off the depo and after seeing a specialist my periods re-started.
I'm now pregnant, but the ftb has decided he wants to go travelling again with his mates and I don't want to go with him obviously, but he says I'm holding him back and changed his mind about the situation and left me.
I'm devastated after all we've gone through to get to this stage and the future I thought we had together.
I need to make a decision, but I'm so emotional at the moment about giving him the go ahead to travel and enjoy himself whilst he still can, luckily I'm financially ok for him to do this and working for now or if he's like this now leave things as they are. I don't want to seem desperate and beg him to come back.

 

[Anna456]

Wow he is being so incredibly selfish! As you say you've been through so much to get to this stage and now he's negating on what he said he wanted.
I think what you need to ask yourself is do you really want to remain with a man who will just up and leave to go travelling to fulfil his own needs and not stand by you. How long does he want to go for? If you don't mind me asking how old are you both?
I'm not surprised you're feeling so emotional - you've had the rug pulled from under your feet!
I'd be inclined to tell him if he wants to go travelling go - but not it expect you to be there with open arms when he returns (I know this very easy for me to say and so much harder to action) but maybe if you "let him go" it will give him the space to realise what he does want. Do you think he's scared about the prospect of the responsibility etc?
I think if you make him stay he may resent you and then you lose out anyway. I'm sorry that he's put you in such a distressing position at a time when you should be getting excited about becoming a mum!
He really needs to man up!
Do you have any support where you live?
P.s having a child is the best thing ever! I was daunted by it all but my son makes me smile everyday, regardless of how it works out with him you will & can be happy as a single mum xxx

 

[mama2b1979]

thank you anna, it's a very difficult position and we are going to talk again and try and work things out for the baby's sake and mine, he will always be the father what ever way it works out. I am excited that I'm going to get what I always what I dreamed of for so long and can't wait to hold them in my arms. I do luckily have some support from my family but they're quite angry with him understandably.