MsKittyCat
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My partner does not miss a pretty lady when we are out and about, he seems to be oblivious to me watching him majority of the time. He will follow women around, checking them out. I pulled him up on it as i felt rage building up inside and he denied it initially. He then said hes doing subconsciously and swore he couldn't even remember what women i was talking about.
Its the same with tv, almost every other advert is some sexy lady promoting a product, he tries to look away when i'm with him, he gets uncomfortable. There was an advert on the other day and he practically had a panic attack cos i was next to him, and stopped looking at the tv instantly. I said "what are you doing, its just a woman, you're clearly fancy her that much to act like that..you've obviously seen the advert before have you? and clearly thought how hot she was".. he actually agreed with me! I said you're are sexually attracted to her, he said "no i'm not, shes just pretty, i don't want to have sex with her".. i replied "it doesn't mean you want to have sex with her..because you are in a rel, but you'd happily do so if you were single right?" and he said "yeah i guess so"... he then went on to say how he hates how he is and how he hates how it makes me feel.
We have such an amazing relationship in every area kids, family, its quite a dream... but then there's this... it makes me feel insecure but i'm trying to pick myself up now, I don't need to let his wandering eye make me feel any less of a pretty/sexy woman myself (although its hard, they're always blonde! i'm a brunette!), I also know he loves me very much. Even so, it's still painful and does make me paranoid everywhere we go, every bit of tv we watch (i hardly turn it on now), i feel anxious the entire time. We're happiest when just at home, no tv and kids and family together...
Does anyone else struggle with this?
Cat xx
Its the same with tv, almost every other advert is some sexy lady promoting a product, he tries to look away when i'm with him, he gets uncomfortable. There was an advert on the other day and he practically had a panic attack cos i was next to him, and stopped looking at the tv instantly. I said "what are you doing, its just a woman, you're clearly fancy her that much to act like that..you've obviously seen the advert before have you? and clearly thought how hot she was".. he actually agreed with me! I said you're are sexually attracted to her, he said "no i'm not, shes just pretty, i don't want to have sex with her".. i replied "it doesn't mean you want to have sex with her..because you are in a rel, but you'd happily do so if you were single right?" and he said "yeah i guess so"... he then went on to say how he hates how he is and how he hates how it makes me feel.
We have such an amazing relationship in every area kids, family, its quite a dream... but then there's this... it makes me feel insecure but i'm trying to pick myself up now, I don't need to let his wandering eye make me feel any less of a pretty/sexy woman myself (although its hard, they're always blonde! i'm a brunette!), I also know he loves me very much. Even so, it's still painful and does make me paranoid everywhere we go, every bit of tv we watch (i hardly turn it on now), i feel anxious the entire time. We're happiest when just at home, no tv and kids and family together...
Does anyone else struggle with this?
Cat xx