painfull topic

Discussion in 'Second Trimester' started by -, Jun 5, 2005.


did you tear naturally, have a Episiotomy or neither?

  1. Tear

  2. Episiotomy

  3. Neither

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  1. Guest

    ok one thing that really scares me is the thought of tearing or being cut, does this happen to most people, does it hurt? any one had experience of either and can share their thoughts. i cant find much helpful info on the net about this, only know water births are meant to reduce the chances of tearing
  2. Blossom

    Blossom Well-Known Member

    May 31, 2005
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    I'm terrified of this as well. I'm not really worried about the pain of contractions or just general pain, but the thought of tearing or episiotomy absolutely terrifies me.

    Apparently from about 34 - 35 weeks onwards its a good idea to start massaging the perineum. There is some infor on the net about perineal massage, but it seems a bit grim to me. I'm planning to start it - when I can be bothered.

    This is my first, so I can't answer your poll.

  3. Ragna

    Ragna Well-Known Member

    Apr 2, 2005
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    I understand your worries 100% Ive had Five babies & im pregnant now and each birth was very different. I had to have a episiotomy with my first born, this was 19 years ago so I cant honestly remember much about it.
    Try not to focus and worry to much on the actual birth, as honestly once you are in there, you wont really care what happens you just go along with the flow. Birth plans go right out the window believe me.

    Good Luck with the rest of your pregnancy

    Ragna xxxxxxxxxxx
  4. Urchin

    Urchin Well-Known Member

    Apr 7, 2005
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  5. kelly_chunn

    kelly_chunn Well-Known Member

    May 13, 2005
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    HI ya,

    I was really wiv both my boys i never had stitches or a tear, hopefully it will b the same this time round . :)
  6. Guest

    thanks for the link for the other thread, very helpful, i dont mind being cut if they numb you first, but i thought u never got any injection to numb the area, thats why im scared, i feel so stupid being a nurse and still being terrified. i should have trained to do midwifery lol

    thanks again
  7. Kerry

    Kerry Well-Known Member

    May 11, 2005
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    Hi Alana,

    Where are you having the baby? I am just up the road near Portsmouth!!

    I have attended a birth (in my job as a doula) in Southampton Hospital........Queen Annes is it???

    Anyway, I was cut with my first and tore with my second - its swings and roundabouts really, I didn't feel the cut and it meant my son came straight out with no more pushing etc and even though it was painful for a while I healed really nicely where as when I tore it was all a bit of a mess for a while.............well, it felt like it to me anyway, hubby assures me that everything 'down there' is no different to how it has ever been and thats after two different births........I think secretly that what we are all REALLY worried about!!

    Much love to you

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