Other peoples kids

[Della Mack]

Next door are really putting me off!

They look after their grandchild a few days a week and I can hear him SCREAMING through the wall. I wouldn't ever say anything but hes really giving it hell! He must be about 5 and hes having a big big fit about something and its lasted about an hour or so.

Do you ever look at other peoples kids and think........Oh dear.

 

[Rock-Angel]

I used to look at my X friends to and think dear god at least I know how Not to parent!!
She usedto scream and shout at them, resulting in the 4yr old learning to say f*** Off by the time she was 2 an d a bit

 

[buddabun]

YES! Oh my god...

My sister in law... oh where do I begin...

You know how you look at other people's parenting styles and usually pick out a few things here and there that you will do differently? I am basing my whole parenting ethos around the polar opposite of what she does

She is lovely but jesus it does my head in

The short answer: yes.

 

[Rock-Angel]

I must admit one of the biggest things I look at is the way a child is dressed, because I think that says a lot about the child!

The above mentioned would be asked to go get herself dressed, at the age of 4 she would toddle off and come back wearing a dirty grey t shirt, vest top of some random color on top, a spotty faded white skirt, on top of dirty pink jogging bottoms, odd socks sandals, she would then proceed to put on a coat and her mum thought it would be fine to take her out like that!! OMG nnnooo way!!!! the younger sister, last time went out with erh a few months ago, she was wearing a summer dress, and her sisters 2 small nursery trousers and those plastic shoes, her mum again thought nothing of it put her in the pushcahair and took her out!

Ok fine you may think, but the mum is always perfectly dressed, nails done, hair done, perfectly fitted clothes, clean tidy and the most immaculate shoes!!

 

[splashmonkey]

I've never been mad about other people's kids to be honest. They don't seem to like me much and I don't know what to do with them. But I do love kids and somehow I've always known I'll be okay with my own. I think it's like a lot of things, it's very very different when it's you and yours. And it's always good to pick up tips on how not to do it

 

[buddabun]

it's just like when I was planning my wedding, every wedding I saw or attended I would be making mental notes of "oh we won't do it like that"

Bitchy I know but I think it's human nature (or just me )

 

[splashmonkey]

Nah, it's human nature hon, we all do it. Either that or we're just both complete cows

 

[buddabun]

Silently judging people. Do it in the street all the time

It's no reflection on their personalities but it's just an extension of people-watching really (which I love)...

 

[niblet]

I've never been mad about other people's kids to be honest. They don't seem to like me much and I don't know what to do with them. But I do love kids and somehow I've always known I'll be okay with my own. I think it's like a lot of things, it's very very different when it's you and yours. And it's always good to pick up tips on how not to do it

I feel exactly the same. I have absolutely no experience with children or babies and when I do come into contact with them I don't know what to do with myself and I think they can smell my fear. Which has the effect on babies of making them cry and on toddlers of making them stare at me unflinchingly until I want to run away or burst into tears.

I'm hoping my own children won't have this effect on me.

 

[HannahD]

I find the vast majority of other people's children incredibly irritating!!! I do want my own but not interested in anyone elses.

it's just like when I was planning my wedding, every wedding I saw or attended I would be making mental notes of "oh we won't do it like that"

Bitchy I know but I think it's human nature (or just me )

I always think that

 

[lauramumof2]

Do you ever look at other peoples kids and think........Oh dear.

My own
Especially when Jess, Joe or bothare having a paddy and I cant control it.

 

[lauramumof2]

I must admit one of the biggest things I look at is the way a child is dressed, because I think that says a lot about the child!

The above mentioned would be asked to go get herself dressed, at the age of 4 she would toddle off and come back wearing a dirty grey t shirt, vest top of some random color on top, a spotty faded white skirt, on top of dirty pink jogging bottoms, odd socks sandals, she would then proceed to put on a coat and her mum thought it would be fine to take her out like that!! OMG nnnooo way!!!! the younger sister, last time went out with erh a few months ago, she was wearing a summer dress, and her sisters 2 small nursery trousers and those plastic shoes, her mum again thought nothing of it put her in the pushcahair and took her out!

Ok fine you may think, but the mum is always perfectly dressed, nails done, hair done, perfectly fitted clothes, clean tidy and the most immaculate shoes!!

The two things that stuck out there for me was 'pushchair' and 'four'.
Does anyone else take their kids out in a pushchair at for?

Admittedly, I take Jess out on the buggy board but I think once Joe is three the pram is going and the two will have to walk.

 

[Nicky_Jones]

We very rarely use the push chair at all now. I think the last time was 4 weeks ago, and even then Ellie spent half the time walking. She is 2 and a half and I would rather she burn the energy off.

Ellie can be rude at times. She very reguarly will suddenly turn to another person or child and say "My chair" or "My bunny" or something like that in a very agressive voice. We always tell her not to and tell her is not nice and ask her to apologise. But I do wonder what people think of us.

On the F**k word. Ellie has heard her Daddy use it twice now (once when he dropped something in the kitchen and once when a car tried to crash into him), thankfully on both occasions Ellie misheard and said "Quack, Quack, Quack" in response. It is so hard to not swear on certain occasions especially when driving I find.

 

[Della Mack]

I think the fact that you are aware of what other people think sets you apart from others stright away. Its the people who openly scream at their kids or pull and push them about. Those are the people that I can't stand! I want to just take the children off them and say "You can have them back when you treat them propperly!"

 

[Nicky_Jones]

Thats good. I agree completely about that, I can't stand seeing people like that.... but then I see some other peoples childrens being complete angels. I have to remind myself that I am only seeing a snapshot, and that theres probably also go and sulk and have mini trantrums when they say "No" to something as well.

 

[beanie]

I must admit one of the biggest things I look at is the way a child is dressed, because I think that says a lot about the child!

The above mentioned would be asked to go get herself dressed, at the age of 4 she would toddle off and come back wearing a dirty grey t shirt, vest top of some random color on top, a spotty faded white skirt, on top of dirty pink jogging bottoms, odd socks sandals, she would then proceed to put on a coat and her mum thought it would be fine to take her out like that!! OMG nnnooo way!!!! the younger sister, last time went out with erh a few months ago, she was wearing a summer dress, and her sisters 2 small nursery trousers and those plastic shoes, her mum again thought nothing of it put her in the pushcahair and took her out!

Ok fine you may think, but the mum is always perfectly dressed, nails done, hair done, perfectly fitted clothes, clean tidy and the most immaculate shoes!!

bloody hell I really hope you never bump into me and my kids. S currently likes to decide what to wear and will put together an absolutely hideous outfit and refuse to change so we go out with her dressed like that.

 

[Della Mack]

I guess its the people who let the behavior of a child evoke a emotional response rather than a parenting response. If a kid kicks off because it can't have somethink and you stay calme and ignor the behavior then thats cool, but if you start shouting to your just saying that shouting is the way to get what you want. If I see a mum all nice and calm then I think "how cool is she"