OH's weight problem- how to be sensitive?

Discussion in 'Trying to Conceive' started by sunnyland27, Jul 4, 2013.

  1. sunnyland27

    sunnyland27 Well-Known Member

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    I haven't been on pf for a while because oh works away and we've missed ov times 2 months running. It's actually been amazing to not stress during the tww! I'm 2 days late with ridiculously sore bbs but not even thought of buying a test! been trying for 3 years 9 mths and been very worried about infertility for at least a year.

    This sounds horrible but I'm getting really pissed off and disgusted by my oh because every time he comes home he's put on about a stone! He's getting really big now. He was huge as a kid but lost it in his late teens. I find it hard to talk to him about it because I can (and need to) eat twice as much as him and never put weight on, so I don't want to rub it in his face or sound like I don't fancy him any more- I do but it's getting ridiculous now and I worry about his health. Meanwhile I'm eating healthier than ever, taking supplements etc and getting horrible tests done. Every pound that goes on i see my chances of having babies disappear a little bit more. I don't want to start resenting him because of his weight.

    I can't wait for him to come home in September so I can "skinny him up" for the winter by allowing him only carrot sticks lol. In the meantime any advice on how I can be firm but not hurt his feelings?

    Edit: I just re-read this and think it makes me sound like a total bitch! just wanted to say that I'm not "fattist" or anything lol. I just needed to rant because he won't do anything to change our chances of ever conceiving. I like my partner being a bit chunky but not to the extent it's affecting his health.
     
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  2. Blanco

    Blanco Well-Known Member

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    Maybe bring up how you went to step up both of your lifestyles for the sake of ttc because its been x amount of time and maybe ' we both need to look after ourselves' il do this and maybe you could do that. Or have you both seen a doctor about fertility issues??? Of a doc thinks his weight is a concern for ttc they will tell him ... Takes the pressure off you then.
     
  3. Lou1103

    Lou1103 Well-Known Member

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    I agree with blanco, u could also suggest going on walks or some fitness activity? Xxx
     
  4. Cosmogirl7

    Cosmogirl7 Well-Known Member

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    It's a difficult one, my husband and I have both put weight on since our wedding last year so it's easier for me to say something to him as I say it about both of us. I agree with Lou I'd suggest some fitness that you can do together like big long walks, badminton, swimming? Maybe get a nice healthy cook book and try out some recipes together. Working away is a nightmare though, hotel food, beers during the week etc.

    Good luck xxx
     

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