Sorry for the following rant :/ This weekend I said to that he should start to look after his health more as he has put on at least a stone in 3 weeks and has been drinking/smoking a lot while he's working away (he HAD to shmooze with the big bosses in the last 2 weeks and that involves buying rounds every night because of the industry he's in :/ and you don't drink much you end up an outsider) Meanwhile I've been taking supplements, eating v healthily and thinking about getting pregnant constantly. I'd bought lots of nice M&S food and all he would eat was takeaways this weekend! He said he'll get healthy but for his health, not for babymaking reasons as we're still not "trying" for a baby as we won't technically be trying until were old enough to seriously worry about our fertility. I said I wonder what he thinks we are doing if were having sex everyday with no protection for 3 1/2 years and Im talking about ovulating/cycles/infertility all the time. I have only just got to the point where I feel jealous of pregnant women etc, but that's because now I feel like it'll never happen and cant see us ever conceiving naturally. He doesn't want to use protection or for me to go on the pill, never pulls out and says he would be really happy if I got pregnant. I know he would be over the moon as his eyes light up when we talk about it! He's right when he says were still young enough to not be worried, but as a woman i can't help thinking that we'll never get there if he doesn't make long term changes now (were 27 & 28). Can't sperm problems take years to recover after stopping smoking etc?