Not eating

[MrsR]

My daughter is 8 and she's always been a fantastic eater. She would always be willing to try anything and she loved cooking and would eat well. Recently however she's barely touching food. She was bullied earlier this school year and the child called her fat! Also I know that lots has changed with me and my husband separating and my moving back closer to my family but nothing's ever changed her appetite before! I'm getting really concerned as she's already quite slim and can't really afford to lose anymore weight! Any help?! Suggestions? Ideas?

 

[BevG]

hmm, get her involved with cooking again? insist she eats a certain amount and maybe try and talk to her? her self image may have become a little distorted so id take a pic of her and pics of other ppl and ask her if she would call them fat and maybe try to get her to see that she isnt fat at all and that bullies will say anything just to hurt her feelings and that they lie. i dunno but i would deffo want to do something about it, i went thru a period where i was bullied for being big, tall and fat at the same time and it did make me go a bit crazy, ever since ive been tempted by bad behaviour traits i develpoed back then and as a result i have food issues, i finally realised that it dosent matter what you look like ppl will pick on you and made some peace with it but i still hate the way i look even when im slim so ive given up really and been fat for years cos at least being fat i can be happy and not worry about it

 

[MrsR]

Thank you for replying x I'm so sorry to hear you we're bullied too! It's so awful!
I'm def going to try to get her involved in cooking again! She has really bad self image anyway with everything! She tells me she's rubbish at drawing, writing, creating etc despite me always praising her and building her up! It's bloody kids at school!

 

[BevG]

its so common its almost normal, insecure ppl have to pull others down to make themselves feel better. i just came to the conclusion that you cant please them so why try it might help to be frank and honest with her and just tell her how it is that ppl are horrible and its nothing to do with how she looks or how talented she is its just that they think shes an easy target and if she dosent care what they say then it cant hurt her. only ppl that love you get to have an opinion that matters.

 

[Mrs N]

Maybe also try going down the nutrition route, so u can show her that she won't get fat by eating healthily?
Xxx

 

[Laurieta]

This is really bad. Take her and visit a specialist for eating disorder and if this doesn't help go to
psychologist to talk to her and see what is the problem