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No one told me it would be easy to bring a child up at the age of 16. I chose to conceive at this age expecting everything to be ok, No physical issues, no mental issues, no emotional issues.
by god did I get the complete opposite, AJ is now 4 years old and in school ( Nursery ) I am now 21 with also another child aged 2.
Anyway, since AJ has been younger I have always known something wasn't quite right, delayed speech and language, horrible behavioural issues, just general naughtiness. from 2010 to 2013 I had my husband at home with me to look after the boys. now, I bring the boys up practically on my own. AJ has been under paeds, CAMHS, audiology, speech and language and now has a SENCO in place at school due to delayed speech.
He has always stood out behaviour wise from being 16 months old, I have begged and begged health visitors to refer for a mental health assessment which I struggled to even get that, anyway they finally gave in and i got the refferal through and was sent to see a paedatrician who he was under for quite a while due to weird behaviour such as smearing his poo on his bedroom walls, not being able to deal with his anger, lining things up and playing with wheels on cars instead of the car as a whole object, I was told it was highly possible he had ASD, they arranged to see me a few months later once he had started a mainstream school and he was in a proper routine, anyway he settled quite well and his behaviour did improve at home, but over the past couple of weeks he has started playing up again but was fine at school. I then rang my health visitor and asked her to re-refer back to paeds which she said no to, I have been told I have to do a parenting course first. I refused to do this at first as i thought if it was my parenting that was the problem then my youngest would be exactly the same behaviour wise. anyway it's just got to much now to the point we have had to move house to seperate the boys, but this week has been an absolute nightmare, today i was pulled off AJs school teacher to say that this past week with him hasn't been great, he has refused to follow instructions which means his name has been put in the sad book five times in 3 days.
MONDAY: refused to line up after lunchtime and told the teacher no, when asked again he ran off and hid.
TUESDAY: they have a fruit scheme at his school and AJ decided to take a bite out of every apple and place it back in the bowl which then meant no child got their apple after school, at lunchtime he was told not to mess in the mud but he decided to roll about in it pretending to be peppa pig.
WEDNESDAY: was asked to line up after dinner and refused but worst is he has turned around and told his teacher to f**k off!. when confronted about his bad language he has laughed in his teachers face.
2 weeks ago he flooded school bathroom, threw the whole book shelf at members of staff and other children and wouldn't apologise.
I am at my whits end with it now, I dont know where to turn with him, I dont know what to do. All i asked from my husband tonight was whether I could go out for an hour for abit of peace and he said "no you get peace whilst he is in school"
Any advice on what to do would be greatfully appreciated.
by god did I get the complete opposite, AJ is now 4 years old and in school ( Nursery ) I am now 21 with also another child aged 2.
Anyway, since AJ has been younger I have always known something wasn't quite right, delayed speech and language, horrible behavioural issues, just general naughtiness. from 2010 to 2013 I had my husband at home with me to look after the boys. now, I bring the boys up practically on my own. AJ has been under paeds, CAMHS, audiology, speech and language and now has a SENCO in place at school due to delayed speech.
He has always stood out behaviour wise from being 16 months old, I have begged and begged health visitors to refer for a mental health assessment which I struggled to even get that, anyway they finally gave in and i got the refferal through and was sent to see a paedatrician who he was under for quite a while due to weird behaviour such as smearing his poo on his bedroom walls, not being able to deal with his anger, lining things up and playing with wheels on cars instead of the car as a whole object, I was told it was highly possible he had ASD, they arranged to see me a few months later once he had started a mainstream school and he was in a proper routine, anyway he settled quite well and his behaviour did improve at home, but over the past couple of weeks he has started playing up again but was fine at school. I then rang my health visitor and asked her to re-refer back to paeds which she said no to, I have been told I have to do a parenting course first. I refused to do this at first as i thought if it was my parenting that was the problem then my youngest would be exactly the same behaviour wise. anyway it's just got to much now to the point we have had to move house to seperate the boys, but this week has been an absolute nightmare, today i was pulled off AJs school teacher to say that this past week with him hasn't been great, he has refused to follow instructions which means his name has been put in the sad book five times in 3 days.
MONDAY: refused to line up after lunchtime and told the teacher no, when asked again he ran off and hid.
TUESDAY: they have a fruit scheme at his school and AJ decided to take a bite out of every apple and place it back in the bowl which then meant no child got their apple after school, at lunchtime he was told not to mess in the mud but he decided to roll about in it pretending to be peppa pig.
WEDNESDAY: was asked to line up after dinner and refused but worst is he has turned around and told his teacher to f**k off!. when confronted about his bad language he has laughed in his teachers face.
2 weeks ago he flooded school bathroom, threw the whole book shelf at members of staff and other children and wouldn't apologise.
I am at my whits end with it now, I dont know where to turn with him, I dont know what to do. All i asked from my husband tonight was whether I could go out for an hour for abit of peace and he said "no you get peace whilst he is in school"
Any advice on what to do would be greatfully appreciated.