new baby, one parent

[kelly-mum-2-be]

Well i had my baby girl on 5th january, Her dad left me when i was 4 months pregnant.. He does not want anything to do with her.. I thought i would be ok but lately i have had depression .. i get very lonely with not having a partner plus a lad that i have just been seeing has just stopped talking to me for no reason at all.. So it is harder than i thought i have her 24/7 which can be stressful. During the day i see my friends but at night i tend to sit and think and worry about things that probably dont even matter..I know i sound silly

 

[Urchin]

Hiya Kelly
You don't sound silly AT ALL! You've had such a lot to cope with, and it's great you're seeing friends in the day...it canbe hard to get out and making an effort to socialise will do you both good.

Have you got someone who could watch the baby so you could go out one evening? Even just to a friends house for a glass of wine or to the cinema for a couple of hours. It can be hard with a new baby, but try to take some time out for yourself too.

 

[pips]

hi there!
urchin is absolutely right! as hard as it can be you need to take some special time for yourself. you'll feel so much better about yourself, about your baby and about your relationship with your baby. thisis true for women who have partners as well but so much more effective when you are alone

i'm single as well as was dropped right at the start of pregnancy. one night i cracked up, which i don't do often, and some friends took me out to the pub whilst another took care of my daughter. ok i rang up often to see how it was going but i also felt great being a person again, and although it was a really weird sensation i felt good wearing nice clothes and actually being eyed up by men

it's important to bear in mind you are not exclusively a mum hun, you're a person as well and from time to time take some time to do what you used to before... (i'm learning the lesson as well and yes it is hard!!)

good luck

 

[lauramumof2]

Hiya,
Do you got to any mother and baby groups in your area? or even if you joined a single parent support group, it would put you in touch with other singles parents with similar problems. Things and problems always seem worse at night especially when its dark and I think having a small baby in the winter can make the days especially long. Very soon it will be lighter at night and toots will be getting bigger and more interesting (lets face it, babies arent exactly a barrel of laughs) so you will be up to much more.
But believe me, meeting other mums is a great way to put to bed any anxieties you may have about babies.
I hope you start to feel better about yourself and you know there are always folk here

 

[claireabell]

Hi there Hunnie,

You don't sound silly at all, you have been through alot...as if pregnancy isn't hard enough sometimes men just add to the pressure of everything. Its good that you see your friends...they are great especially in times of need. If you ever want to chat I'm on msn loads so mail me... [email protected]
Here's hoping this finds you safe and well.
Take care chick and keep smiling.
Love n hugs
Claire
xxxxx

 

[bekki_16]

hey hun as every1 else as said u dont sound silly
i have broke up with aaliyahs dad and i often sit there in depression at nights thinking what would i be doing now if things hadnt worked out like this
but you got your georgus daughter and thats all u need 2 think of
bekki xxx

 

[Tara & Liam]

Hi Kelly

i was in the same situ as you. Kierans sperm donor didnt want to know. I used to sit at home and cry, but only at night, as once kieran had gone to bed, i found that all i had was the tv, but i used to go out once or twice a month with my friend and then i met jon when kieran was 5 and now six years later we have another two boys.

try not to let it get you down. what you want is there for you, youve just got to give it time.

 

[lauramumof2]

hey hun as every1 else as said u dont sound silly
i have broke up with aaliyahs dad and i often sit there in depression at nights thinking what would i be doing now if things hadnt worked out like this
but you got your georgus daughter and thats all u need 2 think of
bekki xxx

you could be sitting at home with an asshole, instead you are an independant single mum at home looking after her lovely baby. Im not saying it wont be hard and there wont be times when you think 'why me' but you have gotta go for everything and enjoy yourself with your baby.

You will meet someone and a few years from now will be able to give aaliyahs dad a big confident middle finger.

 

[bekki_16]

yeh thats true
not ready 4 a relationship anyway so i duno y i moan about it 4 lol
thnaks hun
xxx

 

[lauramumof2]

there is nothing like a good moan
I would recommend at least one a day!

 

[kelly-mum-2-be]

Hey everyone,
Thanks for all ure comments.. I have now moved out of clitheroe to accrington into a 3 bedroom house.. My life has had a good turn, i attend college doing an NVQ 2 in A dministration Kailtin attends nursery.. I have met a new fella called Leon he is 25 and absolutely great with my daughter and me..Hope every one is well xxx

 

[Vicki83]

Aw that's great news!

 

[sarah113]

aww thats really good news hun!!!

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

congrats hun

 

[whyslifesobig]

see you never know whats around the corner hey?