so ever since i got pregnany a friend of mine seems intent on scaring me first she went into detail about how her daughter had a miscarriage - and all he greusome details then it was how hard it is and how it could destroy my marriage and all my relationships now its telling me that i shouldnt come back to work and instead just claim benifits as ill get more that way plus ill be too tired after work to look after a baby at night its annoying me so much... i worked out that i could work somewhere between 25-35 hours on my return (instead of 39) and not have to pay for childcare... now i dont know if i want to go back on 35 as i feel like id miss everything and it would be tiring ifi was working 5 full days a week. she keeps saying that benifits are thyere so i dont have to work... but heres the thing,,, my parents both worked and looked after me and my brother... we both have very strong work ethics and i dont want to teach my kids that you can sit on your arse and sponge off the government... it would be different if i couldn't work and care for my child at the same time, but i can. how do i tell her this without upsetting her... i very almost lost my rag with her today, but i refuse to sit back and go on benifit instead of working if i have a choice. i'm 29 and ive worked more or less constantly since i was 16. now if my husband got a full time job then id think about maybe just doing one day a week or something but i cant immagine myself not working. i can still claim working tax credit nd child tax credit when i go back which is how i would afford to do fewer hours and to me, thats using the benifit system as it was intended... to help people.