Jojo84
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so ever since i got pregnany a friend of mine seems intent on scaring me
first she went into detail about how her daughter had a miscarriage - and all he greusome details
then it was how hard it is and how it could destroy my marriage and all my relationships
now its telling me that i shouldnt come back to work and instead just claim benifits as ill get more that way plus ill be too tired after work to look after a baby at night
its annoying me so much...
i worked out that i could work somewhere between 25-35 hours on my return (instead of 39) and not have to pay for childcare... now i dont know if i want to go back on 35 as i feel like id miss everything and it would be tiring ifi was working 5 full days a week.
she keeps saying that benifits are thyere so i dont have to work... but heres the thing,,, my parents both worked and looked after me and my brother... we both have very strong work ethics and i dont want to teach my kids that you can sit on your arse and sponge off the government... it would be different if i couldn't work and care for my child at the same time, but i can.
how do i tell her this without upsetting her... i very almost lost my rag with her today, but i refuse to sit back and go on benifit instead of working if i have a choice. i'm 29 and ive worked more or less constantly since i was 16.
now if my husband got a full time job then id think about maybe just doing one day a week or something but i cant immagine myself not working.
i can still claim working tax credit nd child tax credit when i go back which is how i would afford to do fewer hours and to me, thats using the benifit system as it was intended... to help people.
first she went into detail about how her daughter had a miscarriage - and all he greusome details
then it was how hard it is and how it could destroy my marriage and all my relationships
now its telling me that i shouldnt come back to work and instead just claim benifits as ill get more that way plus ill be too tired after work to look after a baby at night
its annoying me so much...
i worked out that i could work somewhere between 25-35 hours on my return (instead of 39) and not have to pay for childcare... now i dont know if i want to go back on 35 as i feel like id miss everything and it would be tiring ifi was working 5 full days a week.
she keeps saying that benifits are thyere so i dont have to work... but heres the thing,,, my parents both worked and looked after me and my brother... we both have very strong work ethics and i dont want to teach my kids that you can sit on your arse and sponge off the government... it would be different if i couldn't work and care for my child at the same time, but i can.
how do i tell her this without upsetting her... i very almost lost my rag with her today, but i refuse to sit back and go on benifit instead of working if i have a choice. i'm 29 and ive worked more or less constantly since i was 16.
now if my husband got a full time job then id think about maybe just doing one day a week or something but i cant immagine myself not working.
i can still claim working tax credit nd child tax credit when i go back which is how i would afford to do fewer hours and to me, thats using the benifit system as it was intended... to help people.
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