Hi Ladies Was unsure if to share this due to its personal nature but I could really do with people to talk to who would understand the situation and can relate to how I am feeling. I recenty found out that my brother and his girlfriend are having a baby and that she is 21 weeks gone already, they are having a girl and her due date is 4 days before my birthday, there is just one big problem ........ my brother only turns 18 next month!!! We have only just found out about it, he didnt tell my mum sooner as he was scared of her reaction. His girlfriend is also 18 years old and they have been together for about 4 years now. Turns out that she was on the pill but was given antibiotics for a kidney infection and her doctor didnt tell her the counter effects they would have on the pill. As you can imagine we are all quite shocked, my older sister is furious says its an embaressment to the family and they wont be able to cope, my mum is massively disappointed because of how young they are and thinks it potrays our family in a bad way. The only person that has actually excepted it all is me .. of all people!! Dont get me wrong I am really gutted but dont see the point in getting angry and shouting at them, instead I have offered them my support, with the promise from my brother that he will stay on at college and finish his accountancy course. I am really close to my brother, more so since my parents went through a really messy separation a couple of years ago. We dont know whos decision it was to wait so long to tell us, my mum thinks that it was his girlfriends as my brother is totally smitten with her, and that she was being sneaky by waiting till 21 weeks as she knows she cant be made to have an abortion that far along. To me none of that really matters as whats done is done and there is a baby coming and I want to be part of its life. But then theres the emotional aspect of it all ...... I was suppose to have a baby first, not my teenage brother, does that make me a selfish person, again all I can think about is how hard this is going to be on me!!! I am sorry to unload my family problems on you guys but I havent found the courage yet to tell my closest friends as I am worried what they will think!!!