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Hi ladies I am in need of advice. I work for a dentist in a very small office. My boss is very close friends with my OBGYN; they golf, go out for dinner, ect. My OBGYN delivered all 7 of my bosses children. I really really like this obgyn and he has delivered both of my sons and will be delivering my 3rd child. I got married later in life as my husband is 7 years younger than me. I am currently 36 years old, 8 weeks pregnant and my 2nd son is just now 12 months old. Now I must say that all throughout my last pregnancy I was bullied terribly at work by certain staff members and my boss. Me being pregnant was a major inconvenience to them and I was reminded of this everyday. They would always tell me that I should get my tubes tied. I worked overtime that whole pregnancy working harder than ever before to prove the point that I wasn't burden. My 2nd son was a repeat C-section and even though I was to have 8 weeks maternity leave, my boss harassed me to come back to the office just shy of 6 weeks. I told the office as soon as I had a positive test this time because we use nitrous in our office and if I breathe it can cause miscarriage. As soon as I told them the bullying started all over again: "Just great now we have to deal with this again, you need to get your tubes tied this time, you're to old". They have suggested the tube tying a lot in the past 3 weeks. When I went to my OB he told me I was getting too old and that I should think about getting my tubes tied. This came as a shock to me because during my last pregnancy he had the opposite kind of attitude. I had NO issues my last pregnancy. So I got to thinking... My boss probably talked to his buddy/ my OB and told him to tell me to tie my tubes. Sounds crazy I know, but most of the people I work with are shady like that and I've seen them do sneaky things to other, now former employees. I voiced my concern to the only girl in the office that I trust and who just happens to be 6 months pregnant. When she found out they were friends she freaked out. She agreed that she wouldn't put it past our boss to do that. She also told that during my last pregnancy, she overheard a lot of disturbing things. Like our office manager talked to a few of her "friends" nurses from OB and the hospital that I delivered in, to get information about my pregnancy and post-pregnacy condition. Disgusting and major HIPAA violations. I don't have proof of any of this, but certainly don't feel like I can trust any of these people. Don't want to work there anymore but I love and care so much for my patients but now am afraid to quit because I'm afraid that my OB will treat me bad or hold it against me or something. Don't want to change OB because of the great care I've had in the past. Turns my stomach being in such close quarters with people that have such terrible morals. I feel lost... Any thoughts??