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mums of walkers- need advice please!

trixipaws

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melissa loooooooooooooooves walking at the moment. its her favourite thing, she just wants to walk all the time.

thing is, she wont do it unaided! she reaches out with her right hand for my right index finger, then twists round for my left finger with her left hand, so im behind her, and off she goes! she really leads me, i dont feel any tugging on either finger except for when she decides she wants to change direction, basically she doesnt NEED me!

my problem is tho she thinks she does, if i pull one finger away she stops to stand still, frantically reaches out for my finger back then unless i give it she bends her knees and sits down or goes off crawling. then she quickly comes back to me, pulls herself up onto my legs, and holds one arm out while the other tugs on my pant leg and whinges to go again! sometimes she just crawls around crying until someone goes walking with her!

i dont mind walking with her but its just back-breaking being bent right over it exhausts VERY quickly as im sure some of you know!

what can i do, how can i:
* indulge her without killing my back?
* encourage her to walk by herself? (or am i supposed to just wait til she's confident enough even if im sure she can PHYSICALLY do it?
 
i know exactly how you feel, its a confidence thing really, luke took steps a week before his first birthday but always always wanted to hold on to our hand/fingers til he was 15 months old, everyone kept telling me its fine but i thought he would never let go!!

the best thing we did was i sat ne end of the room and DH the other and let him walk in between us over and over again and we slowly used to get further and further apart and it helped with his confidence.
 
can you try and hold her arm or elbow instead of her fingers? She will still feel you there but you might be able to loosen your grip a bit and see if she stays up. Sometimes I just rested her elbow in my hand and let her go for a few steps.
 
Will she push a walker/trolley? Might save you a bit until she has the confidence to do it herself?
 
I'm not there yet trixi, but from my Mummy friends, I know that this is really common and can take MONTHS for them to build up the confidence and courage to go it alone. She WILL get there!

Valentine Xxx
 
she will get there like the others have said but i had the same prob with my daughter and, this is gonna sound strange but i got her to let go of one of my fingers by putting a little handbag in one of her hands and she would hold this and one of my hands and she would walk lovely! she finally let go of my other hand in favour of a balloon! so she would walk about with a bag in one hand and a ballon in the other and she was fine, they are strange little things arent they!
 
When DS first started standing unaided he would stand for longer if he had a small toy in either hand. I'd forgotten until I read this post!
 
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