As a bit of background to this, my mum has 2 dogs - a chocolate Labrador and a German Shepherd. Both lovely, but both totally untrained and boisterous (despite having attended obedience classes for the last 18 months!!). I also have a dog, a Labrador cross, who is a million times better behaved, despite being just as hyperactive when he's playing. On my way in today, the lab jumped at my back and very nearly pushed me down the stairs - but didn't get told off about it, mum just doesn't bother. Anyway, earlier today I was telling her about my colleagues c-section, and how her husband hadn't been allowed in because the girls mother had insisted SHE was going to be there, because it was her daughter and she wouldn't forgive herself if anything went wrong. My colleague is now spending the week at her mums, because her husband has to work this week and she wanted the support. Mum was horrified at how controlling this girls mother is being, and said at least with us she's only next door, so can pop in to help all the time. I agreed and said to be honest I probably wouldn't be down their house for a good few weeks, I'd have no need really. So she went on about how I'd need to get out of the house and it would be unhealthy not to - I agree, but why do I need to go to my parents? Anyway. She said I should give her a call before I do come down so she can clip Rosie (the lab) to her lead on the banister to stop her jumping at us. I said my dad and I had discussed this, and the dogs would be locked in the utility room when we do come down because I just can't risk it. She responded with "How is Rosie going to learn if we just keep her away?" so I told her this was my baby and I had to protect it, and I don't feel it should be around either dog until they were either better controlled or the baby was bigger. So she informed me that I should remember this is their house and not mine. I ended this, all very calmly, and I said that was fine and her decision, but it would also be my decision that the baby wouldn't come down to her house unless the dogs were away, and if that meant we just didn't come down, then I was ok with that. She got quite nasty then, and told me I was being just as controlling as my colleagues mother!!! And it was out of order!! I repeated that all I was doing was protecting my child, and she said "Isn't that what ***'s mother was doing? Protecting her by being with her?". Oh my god!!!! This is a BABY, not a 30 odd year old woman!!! She got all defensive then telling me that she would never endanger a child. I don't believe she would at all, but I don't think she see's the damage Rosie (and the GSD, to be honest) can do by being "playful". She jumps and lunges without seeing it as a problem - and it only takes once when I don't dodge her properly. Even when unclipped (mums intention is just for when we enter the house to have the dog controlled) the dogs going to go nuts and jump all over us on the sofa. Harvey, the GSD, isn't so boisterous in the same way, but he eats his own poo and wee's all over his legs - what do I do when he tries to give the baby a lick? Or even rubbing up against it?! I'm so mad because I feel I'm being "overruled" on something that she literally has no say in, is totally MY decision, and I also feel I have more than enough experience with those dogs to know how they're going to affect the well being of my child. Would anyone else risk it?