So!.... just don't know where to start. I will start of by introducing myself. My name is peace and I've been married for just over a year. I have known my husband for over 5
Years and prior to getting married, I also built a really good relationship with my mother in law. We would always go out to restaurants or shopping every other weekend as something in me was telling me she was lonely. Her husband would work from morning till 10pm and her 2 sons had full time jobs. Although I knew she seemed quite judgemental and was quite out spoken I never thought in my wildest dreams one day our relationship would just turn so bitter.
So, I live with my in laws, as coming from an Indian background, it was traditon for the bride to live with the husbands family. It is for those reasons I built a relationship prior to getting married with my mil. So, during this marriage my mother in law was very sweet to me in my early days of marriage..( of course she will be). However, as time went by I used to her irritated by her ways as she would be extremely controlling with me in the kitchen. She would complain about where things should be kept and where cutlery should be kept, how they should be wiped I almost felt like a priosoner in my own home. I wasn't able to live my life freely and do what I want how I want without being controlled. Months went by, and I would just have no choice but to deal with her pathetic ways.
Then one day, I came back from work, put my bags down refreshened up and started helping her in the kitchen. As I was cutting salad she told me that my husbands ex had come to the house just before our marriage. I froze, and turned around and said 'what' she said yes she came to the house, and was crying her eyes out saying she regret leaving her bf.. who is now my husband. So I questioned her and said where was rohan. She said he wasn't home as it was just her and the ex. So the night had passed and I had gone to work that morning, and I just couldn't be at peace, therefore I rang her and told her I'm telling Rohan, she said no please don't it'll ruin our relationship and I said I'm sorry but it's something I have to do. So I rang Rohan and questioned him, he said ok, it's true she came to the house, but when she came I was there, I was thinking wtffffff.. u were there.. he said yes I said but why he then said cause she wanted to see Marley our dog who she happened to buy for him for the last time as she knew we were getting married. I went ballistic, then I said is it true she was crying and said she regret leaving u .. he chuckled and said no.. I said well why is your mum lying.. lying about u not ring there and lying about her crying...
So he confronted her and well you can add two and two up on how she reacted. He wasn't speaking to her and as we were both about to sleep as we we heard was her screaming and saying she's having a panic attack, so we both ran to her room.. she tell screamed and shouted at me saying get out of my room. So I thought fine I will leave. Since then she became funny just because I told my husband about her pathetic over exaggerated story.
I went to stay at my dads whilst there was world war 3 happening here, so I came back home that following morning. She came to me and started apologising.. I accepted her apology and thought let me just put it behind me.
Weeks went past, and she started becoming ill, she developed a multi neuron disease. During this time I was trying my best to do what I can in the kitchen to help her out etc.. one day I came down the stairs and said 'hello mum, good morning' she then said , I don't start the day by saying hello I start it by saying good morning. I asked her if she was ok, she then abruptly said no she's just fed up with her situation. I then said ok but please don't take it out on me. My husband was upstairs as overheard this.
So that night my husband and her hand a banging argument and he confronted her and said she was wrong.
She's blocked me from WhatsApp .. I know pathetic and has now taken our marriage picture down from the living room. Me and my husband go on holiday and during this time I've not kept in contact with her simply because She's blocked me from WhatsApp.
We came back from holiday, and the day we landed, I went in her room and tried to say hello she knew I was there and she got up and just showed me her hand. I was so hurt and thought what have I done wrong. I told my husband about that and well we both remained quiet as she was unwell. We let that go
So, we later find out I'm pregnant.
... (I'm 4 months now btw) and during my first trimester I was roughly 6 weeks. I was in the kitchen and she happened to come downstairs... I just said good morning, she then said she's very hurt about how we've spoken to her and she's hurt she also said she wants me and my husband to move out. This isn't the first time she's said this btw.. I listened and said we should all move on from this situation.. then I thought wait a min why should I remain mute.. let me also tell her how i feel. I asked her why she didn't say hello to me the day we landed, she replied by husband will answer .. she went upstairs and I sat in the front room , during this time I told gaurav everything via WhatsApp.. and well he messaged his mum and told her to leave me alone as I'm pregnant. She then came storming downstairs and told me to get out of my house, I said sorry, she said get out of my house. She goes ever since you came into my house you've ruined everything. I got up and said okay, I will leave. She then grabbed me by my chest and took 2 steps back and said wooooohhh do not touch me!! I am pregnant !!... I went straight in my room as she came storming after me and I locked my door.
My husband found out about this and well he went crazy on her and really told her off for doing such things
I hadn't of spoken to her for weeks. And I just hated the fact that we were living in the same house and well there was no communication. So I was the bigger person and took her illness and my pregnancy into consideration and hugged her and forgave her, despite of her not apologising. Few weeks has passed and well our relationship grew again. We were all happy after a really long time.
Then suddenlyyyy this Saturday just went, I invited my sister and bro in law over, I told her they were coming and said oh ok. They were sitting in the front room and she knew they were there however stormed right past them. I found that extremely weird. I got up and went to the kitchen and said, my sister and bro in law are her. She then turned around and said oh yes I know I'm coming. I thought how weird anyways whatever
Then it was 12am, I had gone upstairs to change my clothes, and as I walking upstairs I overheard her saying to her husband.. I cannot live in the same house as her and Rohan. I felt so hurt and betrayed that she said this. I told my husband and started crying .. he said he doesn't want me talking to his mum as she's in the wrong.
So it's Monday now, and well it was bottling inside me in why she said what she said and what a 2faced thing to say. So I questioned her this morning, she didn't even allow me to finish my conversation and she interrupted me as soon as I said I overheard.soon as I said overheard she said, I don't want to talk about it!!! Bla bla bla.. she started dialling her husbands number to make him hear our conversations.. she started shouting at me. Then I told her straight, the way I treat me is utterly disgusting, despite of your ways I still forgave u.. she was just yelling and shouting at me.. i then said I've lost respect for you and just walked out..
Now, it's the evening and well she's kicking off downstairs whilst me and my husband r upstairs.
What do we do.... move out?
Years and prior to getting married, I also built a really good relationship with my mother in law. We would always go out to restaurants or shopping every other weekend as something in me was telling me she was lonely. Her husband would work from morning till 10pm and her 2 sons had full time jobs. Although I knew she seemed quite judgemental and was quite out spoken I never thought in my wildest dreams one day our relationship would just turn so bitter.
So, I live with my in laws, as coming from an Indian background, it was traditon for the bride to live with the husbands family. It is for those reasons I built a relationship prior to getting married with my mil. So, during this marriage my mother in law was very sweet to me in my early days of marriage..( of course she will be). However, as time went by I used to her irritated by her ways as she would be extremely controlling with me in the kitchen. She would complain about where things should be kept and where cutlery should be kept, how they should be wiped I almost felt like a priosoner in my own home. I wasn't able to live my life freely and do what I want how I want without being controlled. Months went by, and I would just have no choice but to deal with her pathetic ways.
Then one day, I came back from work, put my bags down refreshened up and started helping her in the kitchen. As I was cutting salad she told me that my husbands ex had come to the house just before our marriage. I froze, and turned around and said 'what' she said yes she came to the house, and was crying her eyes out saying she regret leaving her bf.. who is now my husband. So I questioned her and said where was rohan. She said he wasn't home as it was just her and the ex. So the night had passed and I had gone to work that morning, and I just couldn't be at peace, therefore I rang her and told her I'm telling Rohan, she said no please don't it'll ruin our relationship and I said I'm sorry but it's something I have to do. So I rang Rohan and questioned him, he said ok, it's true she came to the house, but when she came I was there, I was thinking wtffffff.. u were there.. he said yes I said but why he then said cause she wanted to see Marley our dog who she happened to buy for him for the last time as she knew we were getting married. I went ballistic, then I said is it true she was crying and said she regret leaving u .. he chuckled and said no.. I said well why is your mum lying.. lying about u not ring there and lying about her crying...
So he confronted her and well you can add two and two up on how she reacted. He wasn't speaking to her and as we were both about to sleep as we we heard was her screaming and saying she's having a panic attack, so we both ran to her room.. she tell screamed and shouted at me saying get out of my room. So I thought fine I will leave. Since then she became funny just because I told my husband about her pathetic over exaggerated story.
I went to stay at my dads whilst there was world war 3 happening here, so I came back home that following morning. She came to me and started apologising.. I accepted her apology and thought let me just put it behind me.
Weeks went past, and she started becoming ill, she developed a multi neuron disease. During this time I was trying my best to do what I can in the kitchen to help her out etc.. one day I came down the stairs and said 'hello mum, good morning' she then said , I don't start the day by saying hello I start it by saying good morning. I asked her if she was ok, she then abruptly said no she's just fed up with her situation. I then said ok but please don't take it out on me. My husband was upstairs as overheard this.
So that night my husband and her hand a banging argument and he confronted her and said she was wrong.
She's blocked me from WhatsApp .. I know pathetic and has now taken our marriage picture down from the living room. Me and my husband go on holiday and during this time I've not kept in contact with her simply because She's blocked me from WhatsApp.
We came back from holiday, and the day we landed, I went in her room and tried to say hello she knew I was there and she got up and just showed me her hand. I was so hurt and thought what have I done wrong. I told my husband about that and well we both remained quiet as she was unwell. We let that go
So, we later find out I'm pregnant.
... (I'm 4 months now btw) and during my first trimester I was roughly 6 weeks. I was in the kitchen and she happened to come downstairs... I just said good morning, she then said she's very hurt about how we've spoken to her and she's hurt she also said she wants me and my husband to move out. This isn't the first time she's said this btw.. I listened and said we should all move on from this situation.. then I thought wait a min why should I remain mute.. let me also tell her how i feel. I asked her why she didn't say hello to me the day we landed, she replied by husband will answer .. she went upstairs and I sat in the front room , during this time I told gaurav everything via WhatsApp.. and well he messaged his mum and told her to leave me alone as I'm pregnant. She then came storming downstairs and told me to get out of my house, I said sorry, she said get out of my house. She goes ever since you came into my house you've ruined everything. I got up and said okay, I will leave. She then grabbed me by my chest and took 2 steps back and said wooooohhh do not touch me!! I am pregnant !!... I went straight in my room as she came storming after me and I locked my door. My husband found out about this and well he went crazy on her and really told her off for doing such things
I hadn't of spoken to her for weeks. And I just hated the fact that we were living in the same house and well there was no communication. So I was the bigger person and took her illness and my pregnancy into consideration and hugged her and forgave her, despite of her not apologising. Few weeks has passed and well our relationship grew again. We were all happy after a really long time.
Then suddenlyyyy this Saturday just went, I invited my sister and bro in law over, I told her they were coming and said oh ok. They were sitting in the front room and she knew they were there however stormed right past them. I found that extremely weird. I got up and went to the kitchen and said, my sister and bro in law are her. She then turned around and said oh yes I know I'm coming. I thought how weird anyways whatever
Then it was 12am, I had gone upstairs to change my clothes, and as I walking upstairs I overheard her saying to her husband.. I cannot live in the same house as her and Rohan. I felt so hurt and betrayed that she said this. I told my husband and started crying .. he said he doesn't want me talking to his mum as she's in the wrong.
So it's Monday now, and well it was bottling inside me in why she said what she said and what a 2faced thing to say. So I questioned her this morning, she didn't even allow me to finish my conversation and she interrupted me as soon as I said I overheard.soon as I said overheard she said, I don't want to talk about it!!! Bla bla bla.. she started dialling her husbands number to make him hear our conversations.. she started shouting at me. Then I told her straight, the way I treat me is utterly disgusting, despite of your ways I still forgave u.. she was just yelling and shouting at me.. i then said I've lost respect for you and just walked out..
Now, it's the evening and well she's kicking off downstairs whilst me and my husband r upstairs.
What do we do.... move out?
