Moses basket dilema!

[Honey83]

So sorry if this turns into a long post and a rant...!
Anyway, when i very first found out i was pregnant and we told the OH parent's, they were over the moon and immediatly asked whether they could buy the moses basket (something they bought for his sister, when she was having her first child). I said that would be fine, as i knew this was obviously special to them. My older sister also has a daughter and has a gorgeous Millie and Boris moses basket, which i love, she said we could have this if we wanted it (as it is just in the attic collecting dust). I wasn't sure what my OH parents would say about this, so when they asked about the moses basket again at xmas time, i explained that we 'could' have my sisters, if they wanted to buy something else instead, as i realised that moses baskets are expensive and it might be a bit of a pointless purchase when we could get one for free. HOWEVER, on Sunday my OH came strolling through the door with the moses basket which his parents had bought anyway, this in itself wouldn't be a problem, but i really don't like it!!1 (it's mostly blue...and we're team green, so what if we're having a girl?!!). It also hasn't come with a stand and doesn't look particularly good quality...anyway if you're still reading to this point...does anybody think it's wrong that i'm upset?! I told my OH that it's lovely etc, but deep down, i'm disappointed that my baby's first bed, isn't what i wanted?! This isn't the only thing his mum has done this on (but the cot mobile is another story altogther!!)

Please tell me if you think i'm being unreasonable...i can no longer tell if it's preg hormones!!!

 

[Laurababs]

Your not being unreasonable at all hun, it might be their grandchild but its your child!! Maybe use the other moses basket and when they come around to visit, switch them around until theyve gone?

 

[Honey83]

That's EXACTLY what my sister said, word for word!!! The problem is, his mum lives local and does just pop round...i could see her walking up the road and me frantically trying to juggle baby, and two moses baskets up and down the stairs!! (whilst trying to keep my eye on jeremy kyle of course!!)

xx

 

[nina_ballerina]

It's only natural that you want everything perfect for your babs and I would probably feel the same. Are your OH parents forgetful? if so get the other one and sell the new one they brought! LOL or on a more realistic note they could have the blue one at their house and you could have the other one?

I would love to hear the story of the cot mobile though!

 

[Serendipity_]

Well, have one upstairs, one downstairs

 

[Becc]

I'd use your sister's posh basket as the main one and keep it downstairs and have this other one you don't like as a spare next to your bed or something (or vice versa depending which you would use more). Just tell them you didn't want to be hauling a basket up and downstairs every day so thought it would be easier to have both?

 

[Serendipity_]

Orrrrrr if it is a girl say you'd like a pink one and ask if they have the receipt

 

[pacha]

You aint being unreasonable hun. Our parents have bought us stuff but they have came shopping with us so that we could pick things out ourselves. They wouldnt just pick anything out for us without showing us first..especially with furniture, prams, baskets etc

 

[purplepants]

Well, have one upstairs, one downstairs

Thats what i would probably do too.

 

[Honey83]

Thanks everyone, i'm glad you don't think i'm being ungrateful, which is exactly why i haven't told Andy that i don't like the basket his parent's have bought. I am extremely grateful for all their help, i just wish that they had asked first!! Like Pacha says, my mum and dad have asked before they have bought things, as they'd rather get us something we want/like than feel they have landed us with something we feel obliged to use!!

I do like the idea of having two baskets.to save the hassle of lugging one up and down the stairs though...!!This may be the way forward!! Just out of interest, the one the in laws have bought will only hold a baby up to 13lbs...is this standard, as i thought babies were in them for a fair few months and would be heavier than 13lbs before they move into a cot?

Oh and with the cot mobile...i already have one ordered (still waiting for it as its out of stock at the moment)....MIL has bought us one (again without asking whether we had one or not) and once again, although here is nothing wrong with it...it's not what i had in mind and nothing like the one i ordered myself!!!!

Thanks again ladies!!

 

[Serendipity_]

Thing is, its important to have what you like with things like this! My MIL said she'd buy the cot... So I emailed her the one I want today, but fortunately she said she'd take me shopping when I was more far gone

 

[Honey83]

Thing is, its important to have what you like with things like this! My MIL said she'd buy the cot... So I emailed her the one I want today, but fortunately she said she'd take me shopping when I was more far gone

See, thats lovely!! Shows she understands that it's important that you have the things you like around you...specially as its going to be you who has to view them more than anybody else anyway!!

xx

 

[Serendipity_]

Thing is, its important to have what you like with things like this! My MIL said she'd buy the cot... So I emailed her the one I want today, but fortunately she said she'd take me shopping when I was more far gone

See, thats lovely!! Shows she understands that it's important that you have the things you like around you...specially as its going to be you who has to view them more than anybody else anyway!!

xx

She ain't all sweetness and light, trust me Told me to think "very carefully" about my pushchair................................... REALLY? I was just going to steal one that was for toddlers only


Sorry

I'm putting my foot down now though, with everyone.

This is my baba.

If people want to buy big things like a cot, fantastic. But I want to choose it. Otherwise I'll buy it me bleeding self!

 

[Honey83]

She ain't all sweetness and light, trust me Told me to think "very carefully" about my pushchair................................... REALLY? I was just going to steal one that was for toddlers only


Sorry

I'm putting my foot down now though, with everyone.

This is my baba.

If people want to buy big things like a cot, fantastic. But I want to choose it. Otherwise I'll buy it me bleeding self![/quote]


Here, here!!! Now please come and talk to OH's family for me!!!

xx

 

[Honey83]

Whoops, bad quoting in the last message!! Sorry!!

xx

 

[Serendipity_]

Here, here!!! Now please come and talk to OH's family for me!!!

xx

I would have a field day

 

[JayK2387]

Hey,

Sorry Im gatecrashing.

I would do what everyone else has said, still have the one from your sister but also keep the one from you MIL and just have it downstairs. If she asks say you didnt want to refuse the one from your sister as you didnt want to offend her.

With the cot mobile... say it doesnt match the bedding?? Or try and attach it to her moses basket lol.

My oHs parents r buying us the pram, we picked it and everything but we arent alloud it till baby is born hahaha, so Im gonna have no time to play with it - make sure it fits in the car - etc.... But ive given up moaning.

If i do this again - im keeping the cot from this baby and IM buying everything else hahaha xxx

 

[Shinymac]

Arggh! In-laws! Or out-laws as one of my work mates calls his!

I do think having an upstairs/downstairs set up with the Moses basket seems to be the best solution all round. I'm kind of tempted to go and get another for us too now!

Mine bought us a bouncy chair for Christmas as a surprise for the bump, which was really lovely and thoughtful of them, but, it really isn't one I would've picked myself. It's mostly blue, and we're team green as well, and I just think it looks a bit tacky... I would hate to sound ungrateful though, and OH would be upset if he knew I felt like this I reckon, but still.

They've also bought us the pushchair and car seat, as I wanted a travel system this time round, seeing as I couldn't when we had twins last time. However, all the ones I wanted and showed to OH, he said were too expensive, so we ended up going for a cheaper one, that I kind of liked, but not really what I wanted. Plus we're also not allowed this at our house until the baby's born either.
MIL asked us to go round and check it all out, but we weren't really allowed to take it out of the box because it would've untidied the show home.

I am probably exaggerating ALL of this, due to the hormones, but this above is kind of how it feels!
And now she's knitting loads of cardigans, that last time our kids hardly wore and we got told off about - god help us this time....