i was just starting to relax again after the small bleed i had a couple of weeks ago, and then a colleague walks in to our office and proceeds to tell me that a girl that used to work here miscarried last week at 4 months... i know these things happen, in fact one of my close friends had a late miscarriage at 5 months last year (she's now pregnant again - 33 weeks - thankfully it has all been ok for her this time!), but i wish my colleague hadn't told me now. maybe it's insensitive of me, but i really would have preferred not to know... what do you think? am i being really selfish??